WiLL I JuSt GoT tO Be FRee............

        Well Guest "Who" I Have today from the Past Another Oldies but Goodies!
                          "Stephanie Mills" and her song: "FREE"
 

    I want women to know, it's okay to declare your freedom, many women feel that if they are not with a man it's a problem with who they are, but that's not really the truth!  Sometimes we have to be a little selfish and be F_R_E_E  from everything that can hold us back and stop us from moving forward in life.  I am not saying that a Man isn't an important factor but if a woman is alone it's completely okay to live and enjoy your freedom without a man by your side.
  
    It has been times in my own life, when I myself chose to be Free other than being in a relationship, mainly because I didn't feel I had the right person in which I would have been willing to sacrifice my time in order to fulfill a positive relationship. Do I regret it No, because If you know that there is something missing then why place yourself with someone you are not completely happy with!

                         Often times Women will opt for a person who they KNOW can never
make them remotely happy just to say they HAVE a man. But WHAT does the statement "I Have a Man" really mean Nowadays?  Is it he's the man in your life, with a commitment and not a bunch of drama or Is it he's the man you are having Sleeping Parties with?  We as women must understand what we want may not be what we are getting. If you are a women who really want a committed relationship, why do you keep going on endless boring dates? Stop saying things like well "Until Mr. Right Comes" I guess I will kick it with Sam, John, or Mark.  And If you are really sure about what you expect in a man why is it you can't take yourself off the market and wait? Let's Address this as well Sisters, Internet dating is still dating! Instead now you are dating men online other than meeting that same man from the streets so it does count even though many you will never meet. Also Many Women have declared they are not dating but still have a man they are in contact with SOMEWHERE on this planet.  Why do we as women continue to PLAY ourselves?
Or should I say why are we so afraid at the Ideal of being "FREE"?

  What does this word "Free" means not imprisoned or enslaved, not controlled by obligation or the will to another: felt free to go.

 Now the purpose of this Blog is to set the record straight about being "FREE".  Many women who are not in a committed relationship with their Male friends act like they are enslaved and imprisoned to that person while he is running around "Free to go".  This behavior is why many women are unmarried and are chained to a man who will never marry them.  I watched this happen to many of my friends and family they had the "HOLD on a Man syndrome" even when the straps had already burst right before their eyes.  I too have made this mistake but I didn't keep the man, finally I had to return him back to his inhabitation. I hope that if you are reading this blog you began to get the courage to welcome your FREEDOM!

 Freedom comes with many benefits, you can go and come as you please without anyone trying to stop and control you, you have all day to pick one thing whether your hair,nails,shop,wash clothes, take the kids places they probably haven't been only because you couldn't go with worrying about when he will be back, or if you tried to go he would call you or not call you and upset your whole day. You can pick a career,church,friends you want to be surround by instead of always having to do things he like or else you will be banded from alot of fun things you use to enjoy! You can also work on you and get some of your lifelong dreams accomplished where your family and yourself can begin to benefit from. Yes, you may have to give up the passion, for a moment but God will Bless your life in doing so.

 Now if you are with someone who makes you happy for the most part and you enjoy the balance you have in your relationship I don't encourage you to cut them off. But this is for women who are enslaved or imprisoned and have to be controlled by the person they love the most. Plain and simple, It's not a HEALTHY thing to ever love another person more than you love yourself or MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF because LIFE IS A GIFT FROM GOD TO YOU!  No person should be given that amount of Love to withstand a positive relationship!


HOW DOES A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP LOOK:

* Both people are considered equal
* Both people expectations should be met by one another
* Both people are Committed to one another and not other people
* Both people intention is to help you and not harm you if you do something wrong
* Both people do take for grant you kindness,wisdom, and faithfulness
* Both people agree with each person need acceptable amount of space to pursue their own dreams
* Both people are supportive to one another
* Both people agree to each others life plan, such as child, careers, environment and lifestyles
* Both people respect and have release their past relationships, & friendships with ex's to remain civil
* Both people will take responsibilities serious, such as house work, cars, and share material goods
* Both people take care of the children whether working out of the home or in the home
* Both people are mature enough to raise the children in a sound environment without abuse
* Both people agree and respect the religious upbringing and doesn't hinder their beliefs


If you do not see any of this going on in your relationship you are in an abusive environment and you are being imprisoned and enslaved by another person.  Though for many this list can be continued  but this list really allows you to see why the relationship or friendship is going down the drain because it lacks structure. In everything we do God intended us to live in a structure environment where we can maintain and take care our families without the cares of this life.  Yes, He knows we will have trials and  tribulations and this shall be from the world and it's day to day agenda but it should not be within our homes we live in and if quarreling is their it shouldn't continue to disturb the home live it should cease after the problem is resolved. Our Children should have peace and not have to be a parent at twelve, because the adults are not able to maintain their own responsibilities.

   I recommend you listen to Stephanie Mills video "Free" because she only reminds us that it's nothing wrong with declaring your FREEDOM and making a decision to just be you! This is a right you was given and if you need time to do you, then do so and stop allowing your circumstances to imprison and destroy you!  May your choices lead you to your destiny and purpose here on earth.  Have a Wonderful day Everyone!

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A VirTuOus WOmAn iS NeVeR AlOne.........

Matthew 28:20

"teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always,even to the end of the age." Amen.

  For All Women feel alone, For All Women must walks alone, and For All Women who shall stand alone!
 There is Peace while walking with Him....


My message is driven to my Virtuous Sisters, who are thinking like A "Women". Thou, your flesh may grow weary but you are NEVER alone, unless God Spirit leaves you!


How are you not alone?
Believe it or not there are millions of God fearing women who feel lonely! And many of them are not single. Some are married,single,divorced and widows. But if you are a Believer God states we are never alone, for his is with us everywhere we go!

Why are so many Women Alone?
They have missed opportunities,broken relationships,poor life choices,dysfunctional family issues,wayward past,childhood abuse,sexual abuse,abandonment,lose of a spouse,confusion,disruptive addictions,drug and alcohol addictions and the list goes on. Anytime you are dealing with disappointment or depression you will immediately feel a sense of isolation. You may have a busy life, and Many things to do to help others, but tell me "WHO HELPS YOU"?

Problem:
Women are very notorious for trying to help fix others lives, and rarely planning time to fix their own. Infact, some are so envious of Women who have ventured out to fix their own life's to better suit what they wish to acheive. And when a Women try to make a stand for the betterment of herself, she is persecuted than rewarded for being a problem solver. If you are going to be a women in this day and wish to solve the issues of Why maybe you feel lonely you must began to solve them from the inner woman inside. This will require you to spend not 15 minutes to pray about your needs, But what it will require is you spending time with you! It's a Journey you will find it shall make you understand who you are and why you've always felt alone.

The Journey:
This Journey walk is the Journey of the unknown,unseen, and the undiscovered! As we are all formed to
develop a day to day lifestyle schedule we all begin to recognize we shall contribute to this world by different views,standards and social beliefs! And we learn that our beliefs are no longer governed by our peers and families who may share a different view or perspective. We may become depressed and disappointed by the indifferences our "Fans" have left our side and now we must become the wind beneath our own wings! Moving on alone with a life of many uncertainly can make one feel alone or lonely from the inside. Having personal identity struggles can make one feel alone, Having no true supports for your cause can make one feel lonelisome and being rejected can tapper with one's ability to become successful alone!


Plan:
We as Women must learn to take a moment and just breathe the Air around us! Stop basing every moment around change and embrace the moment you are in. Sometimes we must be alone, to find who we are so that when change comes we can make the necessary steps to become apart of the changes that were made. Face it, Women aren't easily accustomed to change, We will fight change, when we've built empires in which we believe or sound proof. We have to allow God to show us HIS vision and HIS plan for our lives and stop taking all of lifes issues into our hands and trying to solve them like we are HIM.  We have been given a title to become a "HELPER" until we are Married and then We will become a "HELPMATE". Even though a Virtuous Women hands are always apart of something doesn't mean all the responsiblity and efforts should be laid upon her.

Solution:
Every women owes it to herself to take 7 days throughout the year to "Do Something for Herself" this means you can pick 7  days to "Do You"!!  YOU can include who you like, but the one's who causes the most stress should be left at home.lol.... This may be time spent to go have a beauty spa day, hair and nails, join friends for shopping spree's,Go to a play or believer's conference,take in a good movie, spend a day to catch up on reading, jot down a things to do list, Go out to dinner at a Five Star Restaurant, Buy a Fabulous Outfit, Get a New Look, Travel, or go on a retreat. Whatever you choose to do make the day about "YOU". Pencil "YOU" into your Planner!! No excuses, make time for yourself, and Get a Babysitter, someone to pick the kids up from school, all squared away before your day's come.This does not mean fit the Family around your schedule, But Take a Day for you alone!!

Remarks:
Many women have grown lonely because they are trying to wear many hats, which have taken them away from doing things to self build who they are in the inside. They never have time to live,laugh and breathe. Everything become about the bills,family and Work. Rarely are they given a "DAY OFF" and it is sad but our people who we love the most will try and take advantage of your willingness to be apart of everything they do, until when you ask to be dismissed from something they become angry with you! Many Women like Esther in the bible was order to Cleanse herself, and wait in the presence of the LORD as he would begin to heal her,cleanse her,place desires and Hope in the inside of her in which could have been stolen had she failed to listen to his instructions. A day to replenish,rediscover the women in the inside will not take you away from who you have become, But it will certainly shape you into the Women you will need to become over time.And you may discover you are never alone, and there are many women like you who need to rediscover themselves as well.


I hope you understand it not all about everyone, and everything around us, but sometimes it's about who we are and not only determined by what everyone else needs or want from us. Make time for you and do not forget you are a priority! GOD  BLESS MY SISTERS!! You may post your comments and testimonies to help support others!! And Don't for to Join our Page.....

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