WiLL I JuSt GoT tO Be FRee............

        Well Guest "Who" I Have today from the Past Another Oldies but Goodies!
                          "Stephanie Mills" and her song: "FREE"
 

    I want women to know, it's okay to declare your freedom, many women feel that if they are not with a man it's a problem with who they are, but that's not really the truth!  Sometimes we have to be a little selfish and be F_R_E_E  from everything that can hold us back and stop us from moving forward in life.  I am not saying that a Man isn't an important factor but if a woman is alone it's completely okay to live and enjoy your freedom without a man by your side.
  
    It has been times in my own life, when I myself chose to be Free other than being in a relationship, mainly because I didn't feel I had the right person in which I would have been willing to sacrifice my time in order to fulfill a positive relationship. Do I regret it No, because If you know that there is something missing then why place yourself with someone you are not completely happy with!

                         Often times Women will opt for a person who they KNOW can never
make them remotely happy just to say they HAVE a man. But WHAT does the statement "I Have a Man" really mean Nowadays?  Is it he's the man in your life, with a commitment and not a bunch of drama or Is it he's the man you are having Sleeping Parties with?  We as women must understand what we want may not be what we are getting. If you are a women who really want a committed relationship, why do you keep going on endless boring dates? Stop saying things like well "Until Mr. Right Comes" I guess I will kick it with Sam, John, or Mark.  And If you are really sure about what you expect in a man why is it you can't take yourself off the market and wait? Let's Address this as well Sisters, Internet dating is still dating! Instead now you are dating men online other than meeting that same man from the streets so it does count even though many you will never meet. Also Many Women have declared they are not dating but still have a man they are in contact with SOMEWHERE on this planet.  Why do we as women continue to PLAY ourselves?
Or should I say why are we so afraid at the Ideal of being "FREE"?

  What does this word "Free" means not imprisoned or enslaved, not controlled by obligation or the will to another: felt free to go.

 Now the purpose of this Blog is to set the record straight about being "FREE".  Many women who are not in a committed relationship with their Male friends act like they are enslaved and imprisoned to that person while he is running around "Free to go".  This behavior is why many women are unmarried and are chained to a man who will never marry them.  I watched this happen to many of my friends and family they had the "HOLD on a Man syndrome" even when the straps had already burst right before their eyes.  I too have made this mistake but I didn't keep the man, finally I had to return him back to his inhabitation. I hope that if you are reading this blog you began to get the courage to welcome your FREEDOM!

 Freedom comes with many benefits, you can go and come as you please without anyone trying to stop and control you, you have all day to pick one thing whether your hair,nails,shop,wash clothes, take the kids places they probably haven't been only because you couldn't go with worrying about when he will be back, or if you tried to go he would call you or not call you and upset your whole day. You can pick a career,church,friends you want to be surround by instead of always having to do things he like or else you will be banded from alot of fun things you use to enjoy! You can also work on you and get some of your lifelong dreams accomplished where your family and yourself can begin to benefit from. Yes, you may have to give up the passion, for a moment but God will Bless your life in doing so.

 Now if you are with someone who makes you happy for the most part and you enjoy the balance you have in your relationship I don't encourage you to cut them off. But this is for women who are enslaved or imprisoned and have to be controlled by the person they love the most. Plain and simple, It's not a HEALTHY thing to ever love another person more than you love yourself or MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF because LIFE IS A GIFT FROM GOD TO YOU!  No person should be given that amount of Love to withstand a positive relationship!


HOW DOES A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP LOOK:

* Both people are considered equal
* Both people expectations should be met by one another
* Both people are Committed to one another and not other people
* Both people intention is to help you and not harm you if you do something wrong
* Both people do take for grant you kindness,wisdom, and faithfulness
* Both people agree with each person need acceptable amount of space to pursue their own dreams
* Both people are supportive to one another
* Both people agree to each others life plan, such as child, careers, environment and lifestyles
* Both people respect and have release their past relationships, & friendships with ex's to remain civil
* Both people will take responsibilities serious, such as house work, cars, and share material goods
* Both people take care of the children whether working out of the home or in the home
* Both people are mature enough to raise the children in a sound environment without abuse
* Both people agree and respect the religious upbringing and doesn't hinder their beliefs


If you do not see any of this going on in your relationship you are in an abusive environment and you are being imprisoned and enslaved by another person.  Though for many this list can be continued  but this list really allows you to see why the relationship or friendship is going down the drain because it lacks structure. In everything we do God intended us to live in a structure environment where we can maintain and take care our families without the cares of this life.  Yes, He knows we will have trials and  tribulations and this shall be from the world and it's day to day agenda but it should not be within our homes we live in and if quarreling is their it shouldn't continue to disturb the home live it should cease after the problem is resolved. Our Children should have peace and not have to be a parent at twelve, because the adults are not able to maintain their own responsibilities.

   I recommend you listen to Stephanie Mills video "Free" because she only reminds us that it's nothing wrong with declaring your FREEDOM and making a decision to just be you! This is a right you was given and if you need time to do you, then do so and stop allowing your circumstances to imprison and destroy you!  May your choices lead you to your destiny and purpose here on earth.  Have a Wonderful day Everyone!

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I aLwAys LoVE mY MaMa..............

Hello Friends,

My Blog is a Contribute to All the Mothers in this world, whether you are the biological mother,Stepmother, Grandmother, Foster mother, WHATSOEVER Title you carry, Let this day be a Blessing to you by God first and then through the people who you spend your day with! 


Well, I just thought I'd have someone remind you just how special you are to them! Even if Your family is not be able to fly near you, but these men are going to tell you why most kids really "Love their Mama". So this is your gift from me to all the Mama's! And Thank you "The Intruders" for thinking so Highly about you Mother! We can still enjoy your music......

Happy Mother's Day!!!!!! Happy Mother's Day!!!!!! Happy Mother's Day!!!!!! Happy Mother's Day!!!!!


          Now Go And Enjoy the Rest of Your Day...................

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"WhO ShAll GuArd HeR HeArt"

Who shall Guard the Virtuous Women's Heart?

I was looking at different post, AND and The Lord said this to me, Whom shall Guard HER Heart? He led me to the scripture: Phil. 4:7
" And the peace of God, which surpasses (ALL) understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus"

 God is speaking to his daughters, He want them to know that "TROUBLE don't last always! Many are going around trying to give up all that they are, but the only thing God ask of his Children is for them to surrender there Heart unto him.  We can allow ourselves to be fooled because when we are not standing in complete obedience, we will want the blessing more than the prize.

What is God saying? I know your HEART, though you make alot of empty pleads to me, and Some are of Good intent but, Is your Heart right with me? Can you say that you are not still hiding things in your heart against people you don't know? Have you forgiven yourself ? Repent and Forgive them for they Know not what they do...

Sometimes, we are still holding on to past events, and we find ourselves carrying around such baggage in which we try and shut doors that were meant to Love and help us rebuild. We become are so angry,envious and disrespectful to them in which God has sent to us, to grow from. It's one thing to try and use a person to gain a name for yourself, but it's completely another thing when we down right try and hurt someone's else name who has tried to be good to us in the "Jesus" name. I really believe God is saying "Check Your Heart" we can all put on a front in front of the person we are not so fond of or people who do not see the wickness which is hidden in our hearts by the Evil one. But, Have you ever thought, maybe they can see what is in you? People are Notorious for allowing the devil to ponder things in which is not of any value in their heart among their brothers and sisters!

God says this, Proverbs 27:19  " So A Man's heart reveals the man"........................................

What's in your Heart against your Sisters and Brothers? If you can speak one day and laugh and talk, then why the next day you have chosen to no longer speak or look there way? When we proclaim the name of Christ we must accept all that he represent and not just what is fitting for us!

Many people believe they can wear a honor of unforgiveness and be considered righteous, "WRONG" you need to Check your Heart! We do not choose who God will send our way, yet we must not be so anxious to build ungodly relationship with those who can cause us to stumble. But we must remain and live in a life of Forgiveness. Who have you wronged that had to Forgive you? This table is always shifting one to another.

If you are here today and your Heart is troubled by someone you feel has wronged you, Maybe you should ask them why and where did you go wrong! Or send a small message wrapped around forgiveness. If you already have peace than God is with you, And now you can Love them now without Limits! This does mean be foolish, but this means you accept who they are and will no longer allow them to continue to disrupt the peace in your heart!

This message is designed for the Women who Heart is troubled, Who have been in combat with a wronged heart, But let us remember that we are not perfect ourselves and we don't excuse wrong, we grow from it!

May you enjoy your day and Let the peace of God, Guard you heart!!!

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My Heart Goes out to YOU........

VIRTUOUS WOMEN,


  As I look around my church and among many of friends I see the pain and fear we all tend to plague our hearts! So many Women are feeling suicidal and are aborting their dreams and passion, because in many facets of their life, Life just doesn't hold that same beauty it once did!

 Many women are so desperate to finding and fulfilling the desires of their hearts. And living in fear that they will never enjoy these types of blessings so much that many are missing the sole intented purpose GOD created them, For his enterainment and purpose and not our own.  Everyday it seems as if another person is headed for the grave, because their life was tremendously scattered by failed promises and hopeless dreams.

We are in a Hour in which we must fight our way through. As Women who are Single, it's not that we can not be hopeful but We need to place our hope in Christ because he is everything and shall be everything to all of your problems. We cannot place much value on this world for it is forever changing with laws, people, human fralities and unrealistic behavior. For the Married Women, my thoughts to you are to remain faithful and intact to your husbands if you have been blessed to have a wonderful mate that is God fearing, not perfect. So many times we believe the Grass would be much greener than understanding all we need is to water our own field. Because you have been chosen to prepare,teach and provide for your family doesn't mean you are less exciting than others. If you remind yourself how wonderfully made the Virtuous Women appears you can see she was a women who possessed her Love from the inside, an didn't always have to be told what LOVE really is by her husband.

What is our Next Level, Women?

I strongly believe we must LOVE the skin we are in! Take charge to the things you can do to help you become more effective as before. If you are depressed take this time to step back away from all things in which are toxic in your life and re adjust your LENS! Do not begin to get caught up in ungodly rituals which can only alter your future.. Always strive to be that Godly Women in which God Created for her to do all, be all and love all starting with the Women inside of you!

Did you know you cannot be everything to everybody! You must first be caught working on yourself, learning how to identify who you really are inside, and learning to love all of you. Everyday you live you should be trying to correct the things that are visible to you that need to be changed for the betterment of you. Sometimes when things are broken in our past, it's because your past cannot bring forth the many new opportunities that lay and wait ahead of you.

Are you an Original or a Carbon Copy of Another Women?

Many women are captivated in the lives of other women in what they have, and how they are doing this and that, until they never see how much time the Enemy has robbed them of taking care of their own affairs for their lives. It's been on many occasions I felt led by GOD to change my circle of friends. Yet we built a tight friendship but our paths begin to change it's direction. What use to make sense, no longer kept the friendship pleasurable and friendly. God began to reveal the hearts and actions of some of my most closest friends. And even though those chapter end, mainly on the best interest of both parties, but New and Exciting Chapters begin!

A women should never try and be a Carbon Copy of another Women! GOD have a plan assigned Just For You! His assignment for you is to get your own work done and STOP trying to do others work for them. You have alot of potential in which you can only reach. You are made with different desires which will suits your future. So why spend unnecessary time, trying to become a better HER than YOU?

The Virtuous Women is a TRUE Original.......
Her interest and her thoughts of Who she is comes from the LORD! She doesn't really care about what others think of her, because she have learned to listen to her thoughts, and have recognized her own gifts,and is striving to become a better person on the inside as well as on the outside. She does not have time to be wondering around inside someone else's camp, Her Camp alone is very plentiful... Many Women who see her BELIEVES she has no problems, and her life is peachy clean, But if they only knew how much work staying on her knees before the Father and allowing him to correct her ways and actions, and trying to fulfil her destiny and calling they would see she's not a perfect creature. What remains to be different about her is she does not waste her precious time trying to live to be accepted by others, she have grown far past what other's think that she's more interested in what GOD thinks,see's and LOVE about her. Therefore, she have no time to be trying to keeping up with the "Kardashians".....

Are you hurting? Is your Life without Direction? Do you feel hopeless?

If you are hurting GOD is a Healer, If you lack Direction He is A Compass, If you are hopeless He is a Visionary.

Sometimes, Ladies all we need is to re adjust our Lens. Sometimes when it rains your lens get wet, and blurry. It makes you can't see what's up ahead, it makes all  the blind spots be unseen. It makes life look like there is very little meaning.  It makes what you use to see no longer exist. But You have the ability to wipe your Lens off and take new pictures and create new chapters for your life. If you place your trust in Christ he will bring New Light and New Hope to your future.He can do everything but fail you!


GOD Bless You all, For I hope that many of you will begin to adjust your Lens because everything you want and need is ahead of you and not behind you......

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