WiLL I JuSt GoT tO Be FRee............

        Well Guest "Who" I Have today from the Past Another Oldies but Goodies!
                          "Stephanie Mills" and her song: "FREE"
 

    I want women to know, it's okay to declare your freedom, many women feel that if they are not with a man it's a problem with who they are, but that's not really the truth!  Sometimes we have to be a little selfish and be F_R_E_E  from everything that can hold us back and stop us from moving forward in life.  I am not saying that a Man isn't an important factor but if a woman is alone it's completely okay to live and enjoy your freedom without a man by your side.
  
    It has been times in my own life, when I myself chose to be Free other than being in a relationship, mainly because I didn't feel I had the right person in which I would have been willing to sacrifice my time in order to fulfill a positive relationship. Do I regret it No, because If you know that there is something missing then why place yourself with someone you are not completely happy with!

                         Often times Women will opt for a person who they KNOW can never
make them remotely happy just to say they HAVE a man. But WHAT does the statement "I Have a Man" really mean Nowadays?  Is it he's the man in your life, with a commitment and not a bunch of drama or Is it he's the man you are having Sleeping Parties with?  We as women must understand what we want may not be what we are getting. If you are a women who really want a committed relationship, why do you keep going on endless boring dates? Stop saying things like well "Until Mr. Right Comes" I guess I will kick it with Sam, John, or Mark.  And If you are really sure about what you expect in a man why is it you can't take yourself off the market and wait? Let's Address this as well Sisters, Internet dating is still dating! Instead now you are dating men online other than meeting that same man from the streets so it does count even though many you will never meet. Also Many Women have declared they are not dating but still have a man they are in contact with SOMEWHERE on this planet.  Why do we as women continue to PLAY ourselves?
Or should I say why are we so afraid at the Ideal of being "FREE"?

  What does this word "Free" means not imprisoned or enslaved, not controlled by obligation or the will to another: felt free to go.

 Now the purpose of this Blog is to set the record straight about being "FREE".  Many women who are not in a committed relationship with their Male friends act like they are enslaved and imprisoned to that person while he is running around "Free to go".  This behavior is why many women are unmarried and are chained to a man who will never marry them.  I watched this happen to many of my friends and family they had the "HOLD on a Man syndrome" even when the straps had already burst right before their eyes.  I too have made this mistake but I didn't keep the man, finally I had to return him back to his inhabitation. I hope that if you are reading this blog you began to get the courage to welcome your FREEDOM!

 Freedom comes with many benefits, you can go and come as you please without anyone trying to stop and control you, you have all day to pick one thing whether your hair,nails,shop,wash clothes, take the kids places they probably haven't been only because you couldn't go with worrying about when he will be back, or if you tried to go he would call you or not call you and upset your whole day. You can pick a career,church,friends you want to be surround by instead of always having to do things he like or else you will be banded from alot of fun things you use to enjoy! You can also work on you and get some of your lifelong dreams accomplished where your family and yourself can begin to benefit from. Yes, you may have to give up the passion, for a moment but God will Bless your life in doing so.

 Now if you are with someone who makes you happy for the most part and you enjoy the balance you have in your relationship I don't encourage you to cut them off. But this is for women who are enslaved or imprisoned and have to be controlled by the person they love the most. Plain and simple, It's not a HEALTHY thing to ever love another person more than you love yourself or MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF because LIFE IS A GIFT FROM GOD TO YOU!  No person should be given that amount of Love to withstand a positive relationship!


HOW DOES A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP LOOK:

* Both people are considered equal
* Both people expectations should be met by one another
* Both people are Committed to one another and not other people
* Both people intention is to help you and not harm you if you do something wrong
* Both people do take for grant you kindness,wisdom, and faithfulness
* Both people agree with each person need acceptable amount of space to pursue their own dreams
* Both people are supportive to one another
* Both people agree to each others life plan, such as child, careers, environment and lifestyles
* Both people respect and have release their past relationships, & friendships with ex's to remain civil
* Both people will take responsibilities serious, such as house work, cars, and share material goods
* Both people take care of the children whether working out of the home or in the home
* Both people are mature enough to raise the children in a sound environment without abuse
* Both people agree and respect the religious upbringing and doesn't hinder their beliefs


If you do not see any of this going on in your relationship you are in an abusive environment and you are being imprisoned and enslaved by another person.  Though for many this list can be continued  but this list really allows you to see why the relationship or friendship is going down the drain because it lacks structure. In everything we do God intended us to live in a structure environment where we can maintain and take care our families without the cares of this life.  Yes, He knows we will have trials and  tribulations and this shall be from the world and it's day to day agenda but it should not be within our homes we live in and if quarreling is their it shouldn't continue to disturb the home live it should cease after the problem is resolved. Our Children should have peace and not have to be a parent at twelve, because the adults are not able to maintain their own responsibilities.

   I recommend you listen to Stephanie Mills video "Free" because she only reminds us that it's nothing wrong with declaring your FREEDOM and making a decision to just be you! This is a right you was given and if you need time to do you, then do so and stop allowing your circumstances to imprison and destroy you!  May your choices lead you to your destiny and purpose here on earth.  Have a Wonderful day Everyone!

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What do A Virtuous Man Wants in A Virtuous Women....

  Hello, All My Virtuous Sisters.....................

I want to share this video,
By: Truprince

A Virtuous Women Daily Living would like to help repair the broken vessel and true beauty that lies within the Virtuous Woman. May be you've ask yourself  "Am I worthy to be called AVirtuous Woman"? I've made many mistakes and some of the things I've done does not reflect a Women of Virtue. But I stopped by to encourage all my Sisters, there is True Virtue inside!

 As I sit down alone reading my paper I visualize a Women who had been divorce and it really took time for her to fully forgive herself for not being able to save her marriage. But through her pain she went to seek Love to fullfil the void her husband once did, but after many years she was no longer the women he wanted to love as so he promised in his vow to her. She became overweight and suffered depression and her entire facial features had changed. She was still very attractive don't get me wrong but because she had  to cry herself to sleep every night hoping her husband would come home from always working late, she developed dark rings around her beautiful hazel eyes!  One day she stopped her Husband before he went to go have his Morning Shower, She said Honey, "Tell me why you don't Love me anymore, Because from what I see you don't want my touch anymore? And this is how he responded I have always Loved you, this my love you must know, But the fact that you lost your Virtuous Ways, I miss that women in you, she was the love of my life, my best friend, when I needed her arms to hold me instead of nag me you would not let me end, I watched you change over the years, My beautiful wife begin to allow her true beauty to die within! Now instead of going to the spa, you rather go out and eat with your friends, now instead of buying a sexy piece to wear for me, you force me to hurry up when I try to make love to you from within, now you blame me for all your pain, even when I'm at work and several miles away. I look at this women I live with and have prayed earnestly that my Virtuous Queen will come back home to me once again!

Her eyes were filled with tears running down her face! She dropped on her knees and Asked God to bring her back to that place. That place of hope where it all began and that is when he brought her that Virtuous Man.  She admitted to God He was the void, and not husband anymore. Then she realized, Her time was up with this man. Infact she did lose her way, but it didn't mean God did not want to restore her in a Greater Way!

A Short Story!
By: K.Thomas
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Many Virtuous women have infact lost their way, because they lost their mate amd who they once were. But it never to late to enjoy the life God will create in for and with you. I believe if you watch a Man tell you who is the Virtuous Women, and what she should be acting like you will recognize she still live within you! Sister's believe this, there are still men of Virtue, But Who we are will definitely reflect who we shall  pick! If you are Virtuous Women on sunday, and  a freak monday thru saturday you will definitely pick a man who just will go to church with you. But if you are devoted to the Life of Christ you will want a man who offers his spiritual protection over you and you will not be satisfy until he makes you his wife!  "Truprince", reminds us who we are and what we although to be doing in order to be connected with a Virtuous Man. He breaks it down for you to understand where you may have lost you way.....


I hope you enjoy this Video, and May God Bless you for Tuning in Today, Have a Wonderful Day!


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wHEN a wOMan LoVes A mAn..................

When a Woman Loves a Man.....................

We are going to discover just how deep a Woman's Love can be For her man!
Yesterday, I blogged about:: " When  a Man Loves a Woman" now today I will talk about When a Woman Loves a Man.


Women are very basic, they see a man then they aim to get him! But is this the way it was intended to be?

 God's plan for women is to be considered a help mate to her husband and mother to his children, and wife to her husband. But many women have taken on the role of the man because she can no longer trust the words that come from him when she's the one who is left to carry the weight! WHY because she already knows, had she not loved this man she would not have been left in this situation to raise HIM and the KIDS!


Our Modern day society has adapted to the ideal of women supporting their homes instead of placing the responsibility on the man even if he is no longer in the home. Though she may feel alone and abandon she is still yet forgiving of her man's error for the sake of Love.

When he is in the Home she's always rearranging her schedules to make sure she is by his side when He needs her the most.  As women many have the desire as EVE did when in the garden as she ate of the fruit, she could have easily chose to eat the entire fruit alone, but No, she went and offered her husband a piece as well. My point is women are always sharing and including their spouses or man in things even when it was for them to enjoy alone. It's funny how the serpent SUGGESTED that she eat from the tree first. But scriptures, only addressed what happened after she and him ate from the tree!

But how do we know if anything would have happened if Adam hadn't joined in?   Just food for your thought. I believe maybe Satan wanted to see what was going to happen himself, and when she ate of the fruit she didn't act like anything was different until the both had ate from the tree.This example alone showed the Love God had for Women, because were made to help our mate. He knew she had been mislead by satan, and at the sametime her husband had not taken the lead and through this very event Women have been called to become independent in their thinking!

Which has cause many women to feel if there spouses are making way less monies she rather help him think he's still doing better than her. Women who are in love with their man never hold back. They will help him when he's in need without seeing that man playing them. I have seen women who love their man, buy clothes, shoes, make car notes, by furniture, clean the men house, help him get a better job, let him stay at her place when he lost his own, let him drive her car, and give him money when he is down on his luck! Many Women will offer their prize possessions for the sake of Love.

She will selfishly not bare children even if she's always wanted children for herself just because he does want any. She will change her friends or let them all go for him, she will slender down, make beauty changes, add implants to area's of her body He wish she had more for him to enough and correctly have surgeries which can jeopardize her own health for the sake of Love.

And if her family is not supportive in her choice to be with him, she'll leave them alone, for the sake of loving her man. Women for many years, have sacrifice many things to have a man be with them!

I will tell you many men would not risk many pleasures,unless they are in Love with you! But even then a Woman Love out beats his Efforts.

Men don't leave or write off their families, even if their mother don't like her. He may have little to do with them and will still blame the woman for the fact his mother doesn't really care for her. And if he really want children and his women doesn't he will find someone who does want to father his children, he will not end friendships because many of his friend disapprove of who he is dating. Nor will he offer his possessions up freely unless he feels guilty just for the sake of  Love. He will never freely forgive you for making more money unless the extra is spent on him. He will rarely give his house keys out and allow a women only his girlfriend to come by and wash, watch tv, and stay at his home as much as they like unless she's past many of his test! He will not easily go under the knife to correct his body part only if that is what he chose. And he will not lose weight unless he's single again, he will go to the gym more as a recreation for himself. And if he's a single dad, he will never abandon his children he will become resentful if the woman he loves doesn't welcome them like they were her own. And you will not drive his car all the time instead he may help you find your own. Let's Face it, Men are way more selfish than women.


Women are the bomb! We have a deeper desire to be loved and were not afraid to let some of our desires go to have a man's love. Even though I personally don't believe you should have to make all these changes to have a man's love, I must not ignore many women will do anything to have a man's love.  My heart goes out to the many women who have allowed themselves to be tricked and those who have denied themselves from experiencing life on a greater level. This blog is only created to show a Woman's love for a man.

I hope you enjoyed this blog and if so leave me a comment! Have a Wonderful day.....

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"WhO ShAll GuArd HeR HeArt"

Who shall Guard the Virtuous Women's Heart?

I was looking at different post, AND and The Lord said this to me, Whom shall Guard HER Heart? He led me to the scripture: Phil. 4:7
" And the peace of God, which surpasses (ALL) understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus"

 God is speaking to his daughters, He want them to know that "TROUBLE don't last always! Many are going around trying to give up all that they are, but the only thing God ask of his Children is for them to surrender there Heart unto him.  We can allow ourselves to be fooled because when we are not standing in complete obedience, we will want the blessing more than the prize.

What is God saying? I know your HEART, though you make alot of empty pleads to me, and Some are of Good intent but, Is your Heart right with me? Can you say that you are not still hiding things in your heart against people you don't know? Have you forgiven yourself ? Repent and Forgive them for they Know not what they do...

Sometimes, we are still holding on to past events, and we find ourselves carrying around such baggage in which we try and shut doors that were meant to Love and help us rebuild. We become are so angry,envious and disrespectful to them in which God has sent to us, to grow from. It's one thing to try and use a person to gain a name for yourself, but it's completely another thing when we down right try and hurt someone's else name who has tried to be good to us in the "Jesus" name. I really believe God is saying "Check Your Heart" we can all put on a front in front of the person we are not so fond of or people who do not see the wickness which is hidden in our hearts by the Evil one. But, Have you ever thought, maybe they can see what is in you? People are Notorious for allowing the devil to ponder things in which is not of any value in their heart among their brothers and sisters!

God says this, Proverbs 27:19  " So A Man's heart reveals the man"........................................

What's in your Heart against your Sisters and Brothers? If you can speak one day and laugh and talk, then why the next day you have chosen to no longer speak or look there way? When we proclaim the name of Christ we must accept all that he represent and not just what is fitting for us!

Many people believe they can wear a honor of unforgiveness and be considered righteous, "WRONG" you need to Check your Heart! We do not choose who God will send our way, yet we must not be so anxious to build ungodly relationship with those who can cause us to stumble. But we must remain and live in a life of Forgiveness. Who have you wronged that had to Forgive you? This table is always shifting one to another.

If you are here today and your Heart is troubled by someone you feel has wronged you, Maybe you should ask them why and where did you go wrong! Or send a small message wrapped around forgiveness. If you already have peace than God is with you, And now you can Love them now without Limits! This does mean be foolish, but this means you accept who they are and will no longer allow them to continue to disrupt the peace in your heart!

This message is designed for the Women who Heart is troubled, Who have been in combat with a wronged heart, But let us remember that we are not perfect ourselves and we don't excuse wrong, we grow from it!

May you enjoy your day and Let the peace of God, Guard you heart!!!

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ARE YOU IN DENIAL?

Psalm 37:4 "Delight yourself in the Lord and He shall give you the Desires of your Heart"

Are your desires driven through deception?

Today I want to say if you have been told you was promised a million dollars and it's always been a desire of your own to be wealthy but later you find out it was only a plot for you to pay into so that you will make someone else rich! What would you do?

My guess you would think before you leap. But this spirit of deception is present everywhere! And even though many have a good ideal how they are being deceived but fail to stop this deception for others, May be it's their desire is worth more than the deception. Did you know your name has been added to someone's hit list of deception? Mainly because they can smell your own desperation. Maybe we must learn that you don't have to fall for the madness every single time unless your promise is worthless to you!

Many Believer's will openly say "GOD said", he will grant me the desires of my own heart,but the question is have you DELIGHTED yourself in him? Have you made GOD your Priority for today? Have you utter up any praise or said thank you LOrd at least twice today in other to show your gratefulness for his Love shown unto you!

Are maybe your to busy trying to become your own potter and you want him to become your clay. Perhaps this is where your denial begin! A lot of people can not distinguish between what is hidden and what is not. So with this alone you are never qualified to be the Potter! Yes your education have bought you a name and position but their are area's in your life you can't help yourself and many are mad and disgusted by it!


How and why does God stops Deception:
One of God's Glorious character is to warn us, he urges us in scriptures to do not be anxious for "Anything" because most of the time as a Human, We all See what we want to see and leave what is not any interest to us at the door. Next, God will not allow you to pursue the promise, but the wisdom to the promise. Have you ever heard God say to you "DON"T DO THAT" when you could have slaughtered your enemies? He will always try and keep your physical hands from trying to become the POTTER he only wants you to be the HIS Clay! A Potter always protect his fragile surfaces, because this is where HIS best definition begins. Though the situation may begin all messed up doesn't mean necessarily the master piece cannot be revamped into it's intended purpose! God always begin with rough end. He sculptures the lives of humans who lives was broken....

        "Perhaps your life is broken and you are in need of a Potter"  His name is "JESUS"......


God's Purpose:
In our Scripture God's warn the believer that even though they sing songs of joy, love to him and strive to walk upright before him, they to shall be sheep waiting to be slaughtered if they are not prepared by his word. Because he knows what you do not know, He see's what you don't see. And he tells you openly whom your attacks will be centered by your adversary Satan! He then encourages the believer to get knowledgeable of his adversary as he is with you, learn his attributes and watch his ways! For if you look long enough you will find his plot can two be destroyed. But you have to see with your spiritual eyes! If you have been deceived lately maybe you better order some spiritual lens,immediately. Sorry to just say it for what it is but you need HELP! You need a Savior who cannot only heal you, but can protect your fragile edges as the Potter can certain do.  For God Specialize in showing us the truth, and if we can not receive it, he will offer it in many ways until you can want no more. But many of us, God uses our deception to shape our Rough Edges.

God will Protect your Rough Edges:
People have many rough edges and prejudices which delays many promises! What are the rough edges? Your perception of what is done to you and what is for you. Many are driven away by their own lustful desires when a person is being equally nice to them, they immediately think this person wants them. Sad but it's the truth. Many women have a poor perception of themselves. Many have been abused by what they felt was good and later found it was not good in it for them. Didn't your MOMMA ever tell you everything that Glitter isn't necessarily gold, some are just gold-plated!

I have notice many Believer's live in total denial, Though the word of God tries to correct our thinking, Many of are still driven by the desire to be or become. It's nothing wrong with becoming a great person with a great name people respect, but when we are in denial in how we are being perceived by others that is where denial begins! Remember less than half people you know will ever see you the way you,really want them too.

Solution:
We should never try and walk in another's footsteps! For the shoes you already wear need to be laced up from time to time, we all lose our steps and sometimes fall from our place, but I have learned that the steps I have been given to walk were designed for me. So I settled this longtime ago, I will not try and be someone's else best masterpiece, I have made it my mission to only become the best I can be. If we as women begin to find a happy place in where we are, we can see the provisions in which God has made for us to enjoy! We don't always have to wear the same hats as our sisters to enjoy the same benefits.

If you are in denial ask God to give you a clear perception to what you are trying to do or become. Ask him to guide your every footstep as his increase your space. Stop always asking for the solutions of others whom may not understand where it is your headed. If we learn to allow God to order our footsteps he will bring those who we need into our pathways.

You are NOBODY'S FOOL... For many Women desires have been warped by their own decisions... It is time we begin to stop allowing people to dictate our self-worth and begin to make ourselves a priority to the equation as we begin to seek love,friendships,courtships,business deals,ministries and spiritual positions. God's plan was for us to be informed than misinformed. Forgive those who have tried to be a hinderous unto you and move forward so you may have properly time to gain your promise which was designed for you!

I hope this message encourage those who have been misleaded and have been in a state of denial. For it is the hand of the evil one to deceive Gods people, But the hands of GOD brings correction.  God Bless each and everyone of you..

             "Let not your Heart be troubled because your Father in heaven knows what you have need for"




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A VirTuOus WOmAn iS NeVeR AlOne.........

Matthew 28:20

"teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always,even to the end of the age." Amen.

  For All Women feel alone, For All Women must walks alone, and For All Women who shall stand alone!
 There is Peace while walking with Him....


My message is driven to my Virtuous Sisters, who are thinking like A "Women". Thou, your flesh may grow weary but you are NEVER alone, unless God Spirit leaves you!


How are you not alone?
Believe it or not there are millions of God fearing women who feel lonely! And many of them are not single. Some are married,single,divorced and widows. But if you are a Believer God states we are never alone, for his is with us everywhere we go!

Why are so many Women Alone?
They have missed opportunities,broken relationships,poor life choices,dysfunctional family issues,wayward past,childhood abuse,sexual abuse,abandonment,lose of a spouse,confusion,disruptive addictions,drug and alcohol addictions and the list goes on. Anytime you are dealing with disappointment or depression you will immediately feel a sense of isolation. You may have a busy life, and Many things to do to help others, but tell me "WHO HELPS YOU"?

Problem:
Women are very notorious for trying to help fix others lives, and rarely planning time to fix their own. Infact, some are so envious of Women who have ventured out to fix their own life's to better suit what they wish to acheive. And when a Women try to make a stand for the betterment of herself, she is persecuted than rewarded for being a problem solver. If you are going to be a women in this day and wish to solve the issues of Why maybe you feel lonely you must began to solve them from the inner woman inside. This will require you to spend not 15 minutes to pray about your needs, But what it will require is you spending time with you! It's a Journey you will find it shall make you understand who you are and why you've always felt alone.

The Journey:
This Journey walk is the Journey of the unknown,unseen, and the undiscovered! As we are all formed to
develop a day to day lifestyle schedule we all begin to recognize we shall contribute to this world by different views,standards and social beliefs! And we learn that our beliefs are no longer governed by our peers and families who may share a different view or perspective. We may become depressed and disappointed by the indifferences our "Fans" have left our side and now we must become the wind beneath our own wings! Moving on alone with a life of many uncertainly can make one feel alone or lonely from the inside. Having personal identity struggles can make one feel alone, Having no true supports for your cause can make one feel lonelisome and being rejected can tapper with one's ability to become successful alone!


Plan:
We as Women must learn to take a moment and just breathe the Air around us! Stop basing every moment around change and embrace the moment you are in. Sometimes we must be alone, to find who we are so that when change comes we can make the necessary steps to become apart of the changes that were made. Face it, Women aren't easily accustomed to change, We will fight change, when we've built empires in which we believe or sound proof. We have to allow God to show us HIS vision and HIS plan for our lives and stop taking all of lifes issues into our hands and trying to solve them like we are HIM.  We have been given a title to become a "HELPER" until we are Married and then We will become a "HELPMATE". Even though a Virtuous Women hands are always apart of something doesn't mean all the responsiblity and efforts should be laid upon her.

Solution:
Every women owes it to herself to take 7 days throughout the year to "Do Something for Herself" this means you can pick 7  days to "Do You"!!  YOU can include who you like, but the one's who causes the most stress should be left at home.lol.... This may be time spent to go have a beauty spa day, hair and nails, join friends for shopping spree's,Go to a play or believer's conference,take in a good movie, spend a day to catch up on reading, jot down a things to do list, Go out to dinner at a Five Star Restaurant, Buy a Fabulous Outfit, Get a New Look, Travel, or go on a retreat. Whatever you choose to do make the day about "YOU". Pencil "YOU" into your Planner!! No excuses, make time for yourself, and Get a Babysitter, someone to pick the kids up from school, all squared away before your day's come.This does not mean fit the Family around your schedule, But Take a Day for you alone!!

Remarks:
Many women have grown lonely because they are trying to wear many hats, which have taken them away from doing things to self build who they are in the inside. They never have time to live,laugh and breathe. Everything become about the bills,family and Work. Rarely are they given a "DAY OFF" and it is sad but our people who we love the most will try and take advantage of your willingness to be apart of everything they do, until when you ask to be dismissed from something they become angry with you! Many Women like Esther in the bible was order to Cleanse herself, and wait in the presence of the LORD as he would begin to heal her,cleanse her,place desires and Hope in the inside of her in which could have been stolen had she failed to listen to his instructions. A day to replenish,rediscover the women in the inside will not take you away from who you have become, But it will certainly shape you into the Women you will need to become over time.And you may discover you are never alone, and there are many women like you who need to rediscover themselves as well.


I hope you understand it not all about everyone, and everything around us, but sometimes it's about who we are and not only determined by what everyone else needs or want from us. Make time for you and do not forget you are a priority! GOD  BLESS MY SISTERS!! You may post your comments and testimonies to help support others!! And Don't for to Join our Page.....

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"RuBy vs.DiAmOnD"

Did you know a Ruby can be worth more than a Diamond?


Today as I begin to think of the True Worth of a Virtuous Women I begin to look over my Scriptures and I was able to notice that even though she was considered a Ruby, but she stood far above other rubies. My thoughts became how did she become a "BETTER RUBY".

I was challenged to speak about her because, as I attempt to deliver a message to the Virtuous Women she must first understand her Worth is not to man but to a RIGHTEOUS GOD, and So "HE IS". When you are a Diamond many will say "She considered a DIAMOND in the rough", This means she was considered the best in the bunch. She have a shine and glitter about herself, that many of the other beautifully cut diamonds just did not present. Although  she may have be skillfully cut as many diamond are, even though her craftsmenship, showed perfection but her clarity was not Radiant! Many men will  choose a Diamond over a Ruby because of the Glitter, But once he gets her home and have played with her he would have wished he chose a Ruby. Because she is skilled in many ways a diamond isn't. For she forever and not only until her glow no longer exist! Have you ever dated a Man and the relationship ended, and you seen him with another women later and once you seen, heard word of mouth about her, all you could say about her is WOW?

                                                                       VS.

When a Virtuous Women is presented to her man and to other that is the affect she carries! Because she is a "RUBY" not a diamond. Get that correct! Though she may not sparkle in the same way as a glittery diamond but when you see her finish it's of  Splendor and Royalty!  Many who spot her knows she is in a class all by herself, and they can always tell her difference because of the Color she radiates, because she is  a blood sacrifice. Her Flair,Charm and style radiates and shine far above all the diamonds and other rubies in any room. Her beauty reflects the Covenant of A Holy Sacrifice with her Creators finish. Her worth always hold a Sentimental Value, which never loses it's Worth! And She the (RUBY) is always placed in the Center of many diamonds and stones.

What makes the Ruby better than a Diamond?

A Ruby holds and possess many different qualities that Diamonds do not possess. She is a smart,trustworthy friend to them who need her. Her relationship with God is not only held on a Sunday but throughout her week she keeps his ways and decrees always present before "her own".  She does not try to out shine another ruby because she allows her God to make her into the finishing stone of his choice. Not many women can say they have surrender themselves totally unto Christ without trying to imitate other diamonds Instead of  allowing CHRIST  to make her a better RUBY himself.

 " Although "Marilyn Monroe", states a "Diamond is a Girl's Best friend",  May be She was never informed that a "RUBY" was the Blood between His own Sacrifice!

For her song,became the means to many women pleasure, the her glow lost it's true essence... Because a RUBY does not hang out in a Rough, For her beauty is Embedded in the Rough. How many diamonds can leave that kind of finish?

The (RUBY) Workmenship which is always placed in the preparation before her entrance must always be sculptured into beauty because she is that one stone that offers that rare quality of "Royalty".

GOD particularly speaks of the Ruby because it's through her workmenship you can presumble her beauty! That is what makes her so special, HIS Workmenship on the "Virtuous Women Daily". As she rise to partake a new day GOD's heavenly presence in her life, His hands,His thoughts are always surrounding her beauty! She is being shaped,crowned and finished with many forms of his wisdom. He teaches her not to settle to be just another ruby but allow your "WORTH" and Standards to shine higher than other plain old rubies. As she allow HIM to cut,shape, and crown her she begin to notice her finish is far more radiant than her friends and sisters because she's been Cut from a different Angle. 

THEY who see her eyes are amazed by her beauty and qualities she possess because her finish shows life long abilities placed on the inside of her. When she is around other rubies, and diamonds she stand out far more, not saying that they don't hold their own glitter, But they can tell she is His Bride of His Royalty.
Many rubies and diamonds tend to hate her flow of radiance wherever she goes. They will make it hard for her because she will out shine them everytime. She lights up any dark and dim room, and many will say she a snob, but her Father have placed her worth far above many other rubies because of the brilliance and work he put into her before presenting her before a crowd.

My Question to YOU, ARe you a RUby or A DiAmond?
Do you have that rare quality that radiance as a RUBY? or  Do you Shine so Bright that while others look at you over and over your radiance loses that DIAMOND Glow?

             "Diamonds may be a Girl's Best Friend, But A Ruby is a Girl's True Love"

Perhaps, Today you will begin to seek GOD like never before, May be you do see yourself as a Diamond, But you have to ask yourself is a Diamond in a Rough good enough?  How do I know which am I? GOOD question, A Diamond will always be Jealous of  The (RUBY) not rubies! So if when you see or spot a (RUBY) and you find your face turning all different types of ways, because  her presence is so radiant, and you can no longer stand it, "You are a "Diamond".  IF You are a "Ruby" You don't mine if a Beautiful Diamond is present because Diamonds radiates from the head (RUBY). For her Beauty is not shown only on the outside but if you look deep the essence of her True Beauty is from within!

That is why from the time she walks in a room or leaves a room she is talked about everytime she radiates throughout the room. For light can never reflect or capture her true beauty that is why She the (RUBY) is So Darn Hard to find!!


I hope you have been aspired, to allow our Creator to continue to shape,make and crown your finish! If you enjoyed this Topic, Join our Group and comment or rate below each Post. I enjoyed this Topic because a Ruby is rare to find in a world with plenty diamonds. God Bless you............

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DOn'T AsK My NeIgHbOr...........

                                      If Two People Love One Another, True Love can Blossom....................
If a Man really want to know what's on a Women's Mind he need to ask her and not THE  friends "SHE HANG AROUND"  and  Don't be A-F-R-A-I-D...........

eNJOY THis VIDEO!!

Many Men, are afraid of "WHAT THEY SEE" in a Virtuous Women...  Because she doesn't look like any of  the women they usually date, and her ways are very different. But if you are Single and wish to date, you have to become wise. Wisdom will bring you a TRUE MATE..

Many women believe that if she throw herself on a man she will be able to win him over. WRONG!!!
If a Man is interested in you, He will ask about you? He will go to your friends, co-workers, family members
and neighbors and ask about your well being. Men are far more careful in choosing the right person whom he wish to date seriously than women are. He may be very noisy in your eyes, but men will never go into anything serious without checking it out first!

Women are the opposite, They will get into a relationship and ask questions later. This is WHY so many women become vulnerable to the prey of many men. It's Okay to still allow a man to show interest  in you first! Learn to stop rushing, you may find you can get more from him, than you think!

WHY?
  Because Women always tend to put so much Trust in a Man. And try to dominate him by her trust in him.

BUT:
Men not only Trust women, but HE wait to see if her words can be trusted!

There is a BIG difference................................................

If a Man is truly interested in you, He's going to ask around Who are you,What it is you do, And are you Involved with anyone at the time he is determining he may be interested in you. He going to ask around before he offers up his HEART TO YOU!

Why do Men ASK?
Men are always dealing with the truth about who HE is, who HE will be, And how this will Change HIM, for the better or for the worst. His perception of Happiness is selfish in the beginning in a women eyes, because in this day more women are very independent but HE will require her to depend on him, whether he has much or very little. HE will also require and amount of intimacy and loyalty even when he is not worthy of it from you.

Why Women don't ASK?
Women are selfish because they are dealing with the perception of  "MINE and ME".  They believe the have to have their own man, and they think more how they will look to their friends and the people they are around. They normally build their world around a family and is territory to what belongs to them. And They want people to see them a certain way. So they will not ask around until that man gives them a reason. For she is way more fearful she will find truth in what she finds!

LET'S Compare:
Men want to know up front,because they don't want to be deceived and Women don't want to know because many of them want to still believe in the dream of having someone for themselves and they believe that nothing is ever perfect for them. For it is very interesting how men will protect their hearts and women
who are not so wise will not.


This Woman tells this Man if he is Looking for answers about her, He should Come to HER.....
She is smart, she knows and hears from others her man is afraid of who she may be to him and what harm she may do to his heart because she knows he cares for her. But instead of asking her how she feel he ask her friends and people who know her, Does she care for HIM......

Then she tells him this, Don't Ask Her Neighbor, Come to HER......
She reminds him, that you may ask those who will tell you the truth about me and those who may lie. Just because I hang around them don't say they truly know how much I LOVE YOU!!


She also recognize that Doubt and Fear is his two friends. And urges him to come to her because she does know if she loves him. Many Women forget that a man values YOUR WORDS to HIM... If you lie to them without a good explanation he will began to doubt the women she is or may could have seen himself with. Therefore unless you are really truthful with your own feelings for him, then can he be able to be truthful with his for you!

Men are not fools, they can see if a women is playing them for money or for love, and He also knows that a women will tell him what he rather hear than what is true for many reasons.

Example: If she is a women who needs help with bills,and living expenses, she may not be remotely attractive to this man who helps her, but she will still give herself to him, because he can help her fulfill a need.

Too many women play games, just as men does! I am not ganging up on the Women, but if you are in it to Win it, you must just keep it real with him and yourself.

Some women have feelings for a particular man and just can't explain it to him! Never miss a Window of Opportunity, I personally would not put it on so thick, but know this, there are great ways to drop seldom hints!

Because a Virtuous Women, is a women who has to hold her grounds and remember that her perception of who she is may have been already tarnished by some of  her mistakes in her past. She may have been living a very wild lifestyle, but now that she's saved and may have changed. But know it's not always easy for people to forget the old you, and behold the new you. Only by living day by day what you preach will change the hearts of many.

I agree with this Lady, A real man will ask you! He will not knock on the doors of others to camouflage his own fears, It's perfectly normal for people to be suspicious because your heart is priceless. And because many people perception of who you can be shallow and incorrect. Sometimes, I've seen that the one's who are the closest to you may want to hinder you from being with someone who can really treat you special.

                  "Whether a Person Love you or not, It's best they truly know how YOU feel"

                   I really enjoyed this Blog because the Words of this song have stayed with me........


I hope this encourage people to take Love serious, and never play with anyone's heart.

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My Heart Goes out to YOU........

VIRTUOUS WOMEN,


  As I look around my church and among many of friends I see the pain and fear we all tend to plague our hearts! So many Women are feeling suicidal and are aborting their dreams and passion, because in many facets of their life, Life just doesn't hold that same beauty it once did!

 Many women are so desperate to finding and fulfilling the desires of their hearts. And living in fear that they will never enjoy these types of blessings so much that many are missing the sole intented purpose GOD created them, For his enterainment and purpose and not our own.  Everyday it seems as if another person is headed for the grave, because their life was tremendously scattered by failed promises and hopeless dreams.

We are in a Hour in which we must fight our way through. As Women who are Single, it's not that we can not be hopeful but We need to place our hope in Christ because he is everything and shall be everything to all of your problems. We cannot place much value on this world for it is forever changing with laws, people, human fralities and unrealistic behavior. For the Married Women, my thoughts to you are to remain faithful and intact to your husbands if you have been blessed to have a wonderful mate that is God fearing, not perfect. So many times we believe the Grass would be much greener than understanding all we need is to water our own field. Because you have been chosen to prepare,teach and provide for your family doesn't mean you are less exciting than others. If you remind yourself how wonderfully made the Virtuous Women appears you can see she was a women who possessed her Love from the inside, an didn't always have to be told what LOVE really is by her husband.

What is our Next Level, Women?

I strongly believe we must LOVE the skin we are in! Take charge to the things you can do to help you become more effective as before. If you are depressed take this time to step back away from all things in which are toxic in your life and re adjust your LENS! Do not begin to get caught up in ungodly rituals which can only alter your future.. Always strive to be that Godly Women in which God Created for her to do all, be all and love all starting with the Women inside of you!

Did you know you cannot be everything to everybody! You must first be caught working on yourself, learning how to identify who you really are inside, and learning to love all of you. Everyday you live you should be trying to correct the things that are visible to you that need to be changed for the betterment of you. Sometimes when things are broken in our past, it's because your past cannot bring forth the many new opportunities that lay and wait ahead of you.

Are you an Original or a Carbon Copy of Another Women?

Many women are captivated in the lives of other women in what they have, and how they are doing this and that, until they never see how much time the Enemy has robbed them of taking care of their own affairs for their lives. It's been on many occasions I felt led by GOD to change my circle of friends. Yet we built a tight friendship but our paths begin to change it's direction. What use to make sense, no longer kept the friendship pleasurable and friendly. God began to reveal the hearts and actions of some of my most closest friends. And even though those chapter end, mainly on the best interest of both parties, but New and Exciting Chapters begin!

A women should never try and be a Carbon Copy of another Women! GOD have a plan assigned Just For You! His assignment for you is to get your own work done and STOP trying to do others work for them. You have alot of potential in which you can only reach. You are made with different desires which will suits your future. So why spend unnecessary time, trying to become a better HER than YOU?

The Virtuous Women is a TRUE Original.......
Her interest and her thoughts of Who she is comes from the LORD! She doesn't really care about what others think of her, because she have learned to listen to her thoughts, and have recognized her own gifts,and is striving to become a better person on the inside as well as on the outside. She does not have time to be wondering around inside someone else's camp, Her Camp alone is very plentiful... Many Women who see her BELIEVES she has no problems, and her life is peachy clean, But if they only knew how much work staying on her knees before the Father and allowing him to correct her ways and actions, and trying to fulfil her destiny and calling they would see she's not a perfect creature. What remains to be different about her is she does not waste her precious time trying to live to be accepted by others, she have grown far past what other's think that she's more interested in what GOD thinks,see's and LOVE about her. Therefore, she have no time to be trying to keeping up with the "Kardashians".....

Are you hurting? Is your Life without Direction? Do you feel hopeless?

If you are hurting GOD is a Healer, If you lack Direction He is A Compass, If you are hopeless He is a Visionary.

Sometimes, Ladies all we need is to re adjust our Lens. Sometimes when it rains your lens get wet, and blurry. It makes you can't see what's up ahead, it makes all  the blind spots be unseen. It makes life look like there is very little meaning.  It makes what you use to see no longer exist. But You have the ability to wipe your Lens off and take new pictures and create new chapters for your life. If you place your trust in Christ he will bring New Light and New Hope to your future.He can do everything but fail you!


GOD Bless You all, For I hope that many of you will begin to adjust your Lens because everything you want and need is ahead of you and not behind you......

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BaTe Or MaTe?

This is a Call to the Emergency Line...... For Another Virtuous Women.......

   911 to HER rescue,  for another Virtuous Women  who is waiting for her ring..............................

HA,HA,HA........

 Sad as it may appear, day after day many Virtuous Women are being led astray and are in need of God's Rescue...  Why? Because they have been told it's better to wait around for the Ring, thanWait on GOD for A Mate!!

Yes it's true! Many of Our Women are in relationships, with men who have been making all types of promises that have not yet ever came to pass. Year after year, though her girlfriends,family and Co-worker's urge her to move on with her life, and let that Zero go, she continues to pat her foot at the alter.

Every dream of him and her at the alter is merely delayed by false promises and the only one is truly benefiting from the arrangement is HIM. His story is none other than the so called "Provisions" plan he is so call making to ensure them a prosperous future. Wow, How many times have we heard that one without ever seeing the manifestations of the provision! lol......

Is this the kind of man you wish to MARRY? are you willing to get married to a person who can take up to several years to make one Decision? Do you really have to be rich before you marry?

If you are in this category of Women, You need to tell him the "Waiting game is OVER"!!
I have so many friends who have allowed themselves to settle for men in which they had
nothing to offer them but passion. And even though passion feels good,But it doesn't pay the bills,and will never fully satisfy a relationship! It's only meant to last for a moment... After the moment it ends, you are back to where you begin!

It only leads you back without a ring! Huh.....

Does this sounds like anyone you know?

Many women can relate because SHE has been in this position by far too many times! Infact, Many Women have begin to believe the many stories about the MARTIMONY BED before SHE Weds! She have come to a notation that she better know what she's getting before she signs on the dotted line. Not so Funny huh, but after she takes the bate she still ends up without a mate!

Too many women are falling for the bate, They are allowing themselves to be bated in by their men and all his string of promises! Everytime she finally gets enough of air to resuscitate he bates her back in all over again. Funny thing what keeps her waiting is the Hope he'll finally give in an Marry her someday.

 Now, I will not say she'll never get her Ring, But I will say this She may have to wait a number of years, before she get the ring she may have could have been wearing by then. Even if  it wasn't the man she extended it to be from. There are times when a Women must began to count the cost of her Sin. She cannot allow a man to bring her life to a tragic end.

There Is A Big chances by the time you receive the ring, it's not worth, what you will receive in the end. You may do better to walk away and Wait on The LORD to send you who your heart has longed for.

Though I cannot offer solid advice,because each scenario may be different, but it's clear if you are in the waiting game, you better be clear to what you are getting for the bate Many women have come to the very end of a totally dysfunctional relationship and have learn that they do not even LOVE the man and will still marry him and risk a chance at True Love.

Then when Her marriage becomes impossible to be in, she uses her problems and pains against, the very people in the beginning who advise her to wait. Does this sound like anyone you know?

I don't want to throw the HAY at anyone, but it's clear that many Virtuous Women are being played like never before, some are very Bless to escape some of the pitfalls which was trying to overtake them, but there are still numerous of them that are being destroyed daily.

What is a Solution?

Virtuous Women, are under the attack of the enemy, she must learn which territory is her own.  If you are for GOD be for GOD, If you are for the World than be for the World. You cannot afford to stand in the middle. If she continues to leave her position without  GOD's Protection she will be slaugther by the attack.  If you are looking for Love, Look no further, GOD's Love supercedes a relationship which is built with false promises!

Learn how to get to know who YOU are, that is where it begins! Take the necessary steps to built a relationship with YOU. Learn what it is that will make you satisfied with you! I believe the best way to begin to be in a relationship with yourself, is by being in a Relationship with Christ!  He will begin to show you the real person inside of you and not only the shell your soul lives in. He will also reveal and heal your past hurts and pain, and give your life new meaning again!

Read your Word, for it teaches us how we must conduct our ways,thoughts and position. It's shows key applications to what will happen and what will not happen if we do not abide in his word. Each Story is a dialogue to strengthen your faith for each challenge. Although it may not be so easily to understand in the beginning but as you use the reference and text it shall continue to encourage and strengthen your faith for Spiritual Maturity and Growth.

Words to Women........

Women can have what they say, they can have a house,car,fine jewelry,beautiful clothes, spa day's, getaways, retreats, and for some they can have Men and Children before they wed, but what's most important is that they understand the responsiblities which lye ahead of their choices. Make decisions which are not only a quick fix to a temporary problem, but is the answer to a long lasting future.

                         It's Your Choice to take the Bate or Wait....................................................

I hope this encourage Women to look within themselves before making a lifelong decision....If you enjoyed what you've read come and join us as we discuss many different topics and feel free to post your comments!


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