So YoU ThINk YoUr ReAdY fOr DaTinG?

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Does  C--O--U--R--T--S--H--I--P  exist anymore?

There is (9) Principles you need to know to survive Dating/Courtship!

Women are notorious for dating less than equal to who they are, and when they try and do things in their own way as being human we all have found that we can do more harm in some cases than good really by  trying to incorporate our own techniques which in very early stages of courtship can crumble the finish of a perfectly great connection.

Most women operate in a lot of fear that the man they are dating or Courting is going to hurt them, instead of helping them to become the Women who God intended for them to be. So they wear a Iron Guard, which I agree you cannot give yourself over fully to a person to soon. But it is a part before marriage where you can physically communicate and go out publicly before any hanky panky and just spend time together with out making it so personal by fun. This is the best part the getting "to know you" process.

This Blog is to help Women who are Clueless to Courtship! This means you do not know what is Good or what is Bad for you! If you are frustrated and without answers on how to date a man in a world that doesn't value purity stay tune you may be reminded why you should use all of the principles to determine if you are courting or dating the right person.

A Virtuous Women have already pondered many ideals and thoughts of her one true love, but just because you may know what you want you must begin to operate smarter and stop settling for what you can get. And stop making excuses for yourself. It's very personal when deciding to spend the rest of your life with some you will have to trust with everything!

Some of  you may be Seasoned, but it doesn't mean you know everything there is to dating! If you have a Good Man, continue to be the voice which stems hope in other Virtuous women because many have begin to believe they may not ever meet their one true love and have fallen away from the promise.

  " Courtship"  this mean it's the time before engagement and marriage. This time is set aside for a Man and a Woman to get to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement. Courtship is the traditional name for "Dating". Now, for many who are paying attention and is not marry but is dating someone, this is all your relationship is "Dating". Even though you are serious, and have taken it to another level this is where you are, and trust me if you don't think so try and ask your partner what are you two, and he will say, dating, or nowdays your in a committed relationship!

          Listen Up! There is No such thing as a Committed Relationship, when there is No Agreement!!!

You are Marry or Dating and everything in between is just away to make one feel secure. So enough of

that because many women are having a hard time with this, and many are not sure how "Courtship" works and when to draw the line while getting to know someone.

There is NINE Principles you should want to see before taking your relationship to the alter.

1. C:  (Christ) Make sure he has Christ in his Life and it's visible and if it's a requirement for him to be with a daughter of Christ. If he will date a women without stability in who she serve he may not be as ready as he say so. A man who is confident in his Savior will want to date a person who feel the same way.

2. O:   (Obedience) is key, If you are dating or courting someone who you like, but you do not see Christ in him let him go! Not next week a month later do it  Asap. You cannot afford to allow the friendship to blossom and then secretly tricking yourself to seeing something which was never there in the beginning.

3. U:   (Union) a union is very important! you both have to feel connected at the sametime. So many relationship or marriage suffers because both parties didn't want the same thing at the same time. Timing is everything with God and if a person doesn't share the same interest why are you pressing forward for marriage. For marriage is built on a union with one another.

4. R:   (Relationship) If you and him have been dating for over a year and he has not asked for a relationship something is not clicking with you and him. With Christ, he want to be in a relationship, for he do not date us on and on and on, He get us to a place where we can finally place our trust in him. If you are just dating someone when do you finally have a chance to take what you have learned and put it to great practice. No one should be led on, either you are the right one or not.

5. T:  (Truthfulness)  If you are dating a person who believes in lying he will lie to you! I rather have someone who can tell me the truth even if it hurts my feels than one who will lie because aleast I can make a clear decision in continuing or ending our courtship! If you are dating a person who can't tell the truth you are only setting yourself up for many disappointment in the future.

6. S:  (Sacrifice)  What will two people sacrifice to be in love?  If you are dating or courting one another their must come a time that both people must be willing to sacrifice his time,energy and spirit to one person. you do not need a person who cannot be faithful to you and only you! If he is the right person he will want to make your relationship serious and move the title up to Marriage because you are his future.

7. H:  (Holy)  When you are with the right person, He will want you to remain holy and untouched from others and only by him shall you feel his touch. But mainly you should be Holy before the Lord so that he can be in your presence. For if you are living right before him, He can direct your hearts in the way you should go. God is a Holy God, and He doesn't defile your temple, for he grants life to the dead, and rebuilds the hearts and cleanses the soul from all sin. A Godly man will not want to defile your temple.

8. I:  (Intimacy)  God created intimacy, for he knew that two people who are trying to build a strong union must develop a time where both can share with one another. Intimacy is not only a physical exchange, it's a time for silence and a time to bond and come more connected because you are now as one with one another. Make sure you are not allowing intimacy to control a courtship before it's timing!

9. P:  (Patience) Patience is a Virtue! It's very important that we allow Time to mend all and to reveal all. Many women are so busy trying to lack that husband instead of standing back to see if he meets her needs. Can he care for your children without you having to pressure him, does he want children with you, can he cook, clean,work a job and pay rent or a mortage. Is he a God fearing man who enjoys church as much as you do. Can he save his paycheck to show you he will not spend your inheritance or he will not ponder through money because he lack self control. You need to see the person for who they are then who you wish for them to be.

 

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If  you allow Patience to have her good work while dating or courtship you in the end will not lack anything! For some will find just what they was looking for, and for other they will be set  free again to find what they have longed for. It's a process, we learn who we are and get to see if the person we are currenting dating or courting can measure up to what we want them to be. You do not have to walk away being all broken if you do not give too much of yourself to soon. If a person cannot wait and allow the process to be the establishing link you may want to let them past by you, because Marriage is not a union which should be entered into lightly! May all who read this Blog begin to enjoy a Wonderful Courtship before Marriage when the time is right and remember this is where you shall spot your one true love in Courtship! 

I hope you enjoyed my Blog, and I welcome your comments and post, Truly your words are making a difference. I hope to hear from you soon. Have a Beautiful Day!!

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ArE yOu ReAdY tO BeCome A wIFe?

Are you ready to become A Wife?

 Does the Vision of Marriage have you in bondage with the reality of Who you shall be............

To many women want the fairytale but do not have a clue to what is required within a marriage. If you are seeking God for your mate please be clear there are many things you should already possess before entering into a matrimony relationship. I have witnessed many women who are more in a race down the aisle not for the gift of being in love, but only so she can have the benefits which come with being a wife. 

 The First Key to a Healthy Marriage is Love, it's where it all began and Love is what shall keep you connected! Second is Faith, in yourself and your mate, Third Respect to Love each other inspite of your flaws, Fourth Equally Yoked to one another by same interest and desires for your future. If you have the basic fundamental of what it takes to become a Virtuous Wife, You Shall be headed for a Successful Marriage. But what can become a Deal breaker may be Religious Views. If you are walking with God before he comes along, it's vital that he doesn't hinder you but become apart of the plan GOD's already planned for you! Understand Women tend to change their views,focus and achievements over time.

Women between the Age of  (25-35) all believe that Love is all they need. She believes foolishly that once she take on his name she will never have to worry about anything, Her desire is to please him, and become the Mother of his children. She also knows she doesn't have much to offer back, so she may choose to place her plans on hold to help him become the main bread winner. And she may decide to end all her past friendships because her image of marriage is based around being his biggest supporter and anyone who could get in the way with her plan is now their enemy. 

Women between the Age of (36-44) are caught up with trying to become a mother and her focus of marriage is based on creating a family. Her Love for him is good but now that she's feeling like her biological clock has been ticking she is more selfish and have the thoughts of becoming a mother at the top of her agenda. Her husband has become her human punching bag, She will fault him easily for everything, from losing the toothpaste cap, failing to pull the toilet seat down, from eating all her snacks up etc... She is just bothered by his existence, and have placed total blame on him why her life isn't perfect.

Women between the Age of (45-55) is content with herself, and having a companion,to travel,talk and make love too. Now that her children are adult age, her life is based around what she wants for herself. Her plans are to encourage her children but know surround herself around new things! She has become each one of their children personal reminder of how her husband and her place certain values in them. Her husband is no longer the LOVE of her life he is her life. They are able to rekindle a love who have suffered many changes and may have withered many storms together. She is more at peace with him and where their marriage is headed.

Women between the Age of (56-Up) are ready for her legacy and teachings to be placed in the hearts of her grandchildren. She is busy trying to encourage her children who are not married yet to find wives, and has her eyes on watch for descent son-in-laws. Her time is measured around being a wife, hobbies and recreations. If she is a healthy women, her husband along with herself are trying to treasure there moments.. They are about spending quality time walking,talking thinking about their past and what the future holds for the both of them.

Marriage is what you make it to be! You can start your marriage off by first asking all the right questions, by securing the both of your life plans. If you select someone for wealth and prestige you may find that his money may secure your future but will not be the key tool in keeping the marriage from suffering human fralities. Selecting "LOVE" is a great way to begin, but know Love alone doesn't pay your bills, be careful that he can meet your needs as well. Many women are suffering from the lack of Sex and so they marry for pleasure and forget that outside of the Matrimony bed, you must live with all his corky ways and flaws. It's better to find more in common than less. For Marriage was intended to become a union and not be abused by personal addictive behaviors.

If you are ready and willing to now become a Virtuous Wife, Make sure you line your thoughts and plans up with God's because he knows,holds and shall become the both of you all future. Congratulations, to our Virtuous Sisters!

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A VirTuOus WOmAn iS NeVeR AlOne.........

Matthew 28:20

"teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always,even to the end of the age." Amen.

  For All Women feel alone, For All Women must walks alone, and For All Women who shall stand alone!
 There is Peace while walking with Him....


My message is driven to my Virtuous Sisters, who are thinking like A "Women". Thou, your flesh may grow weary but you are NEVER alone, unless God Spirit leaves you!


How are you not alone?
Believe it or not there are millions of God fearing women who feel lonely! And many of them are not single. Some are married,single,divorced and widows. But if you are a Believer God states we are never alone, for his is with us everywhere we go!

Why are so many Women Alone?
They have missed opportunities,broken relationships,poor life choices,dysfunctional family issues,wayward past,childhood abuse,sexual abuse,abandonment,lose of a spouse,confusion,disruptive addictions,drug and alcohol addictions and the list goes on. Anytime you are dealing with disappointment or depression you will immediately feel a sense of isolation. You may have a busy life, and Many things to do to help others, but tell me "WHO HELPS YOU"?

Problem:
Women are very notorious for trying to help fix others lives, and rarely planning time to fix their own. Infact, some are so envious of Women who have ventured out to fix their own life's to better suit what they wish to acheive. And when a Women try to make a stand for the betterment of herself, she is persecuted than rewarded for being a problem solver. If you are going to be a women in this day and wish to solve the issues of Why maybe you feel lonely you must began to solve them from the inner woman inside. This will require you to spend not 15 minutes to pray about your needs, But what it will require is you spending time with you! It's a Journey you will find it shall make you understand who you are and why you've always felt alone.

The Journey:
This Journey walk is the Journey of the unknown,unseen, and the undiscovered! As we are all formed to
develop a day to day lifestyle schedule we all begin to recognize we shall contribute to this world by different views,standards and social beliefs! And we learn that our beliefs are no longer governed by our peers and families who may share a different view or perspective. We may become depressed and disappointed by the indifferences our "Fans" have left our side and now we must become the wind beneath our own wings! Moving on alone with a life of many uncertainly can make one feel alone or lonely from the inside. Having personal identity struggles can make one feel alone, Having no true supports for your cause can make one feel lonelisome and being rejected can tapper with one's ability to become successful alone!


Plan:
We as Women must learn to take a moment and just breathe the Air around us! Stop basing every moment around change and embrace the moment you are in. Sometimes we must be alone, to find who we are so that when change comes we can make the necessary steps to become apart of the changes that were made. Face it, Women aren't easily accustomed to change, We will fight change, when we've built empires in which we believe or sound proof. We have to allow God to show us HIS vision and HIS plan for our lives and stop taking all of lifes issues into our hands and trying to solve them like we are HIM.  We have been given a title to become a "HELPER" until we are Married and then We will become a "HELPMATE". Even though a Virtuous Women hands are always apart of something doesn't mean all the responsiblity and efforts should be laid upon her.

Solution:
Every women owes it to herself to take 7 days throughout the year to "Do Something for Herself" this means you can pick 7  days to "Do You"!!  YOU can include who you like, but the one's who causes the most stress should be left at home.lol.... This may be time spent to go have a beauty spa day, hair and nails, join friends for shopping spree's,Go to a play or believer's conference,take in a good movie, spend a day to catch up on reading, jot down a things to do list, Go out to dinner at a Five Star Restaurant, Buy a Fabulous Outfit, Get a New Look, Travel, or go on a retreat. Whatever you choose to do make the day about "YOU". Pencil "YOU" into your Planner!! No excuses, make time for yourself, and Get a Babysitter, someone to pick the kids up from school, all squared away before your day's come.This does not mean fit the Family around your schedule, But Take a Day for you alone!!

Remarks:
Many women have grown lonely because they are trying to wear many hats, which have taken them away from doing things to self build who they are in the inside. They never have time to live,laugh and breathe. Everything become about the bills,family and Work. Rarely are they given a "DAY OFF" and it is sad but our people who we love the most will try and take advantage of your willingness to be apart of everything they do, until when you ask to be dismissed from something they become angry with you! Many Women like Esther in the bible was order to Cleanse herself, and wait in the presence of the LORD as he would begin to heal her,cleanse her,place desires and Hope in the inside of her in which could have been stolen had she failed to listen to his instructions. A day to replenish,rediscover the women in the inside will not take you away from who you have become, But it will certainly shape you into the Women you will need to become over time.And you may discover you are never alone, and there are many women like you who need to rediscover themselves as well.


I hope you understand it not all about everyone, and everything around us, but sometimes it's about who we are and not only determined by what everyone else needs or want from us. Make time for you and do not forget you are a priority! GOD  BLESS MY SISTERS!! You may post your comments and testimonies to help support others!! And Don't for to Join our Page.....

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I'M So InTo yOu..........................

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You Paid your Due's, Right from the start, What a Price to Pay.....ay  ay, 

 I'm So in Love with You, I don't know what I am going to do.......

     Hello Ladies, and Everyone, Today my Spirit has transcend on a Journey of LOVE.... This Video is a oldie but A GOODIE.. Mr. Peabo Bryson, spells how many men back in the day would really open up and allow a women to enjoy the best side of them. They weren't so eager to trade you up, if you were a good women in their book. Where did this Kind of Love for Women Go?  Those were the days, when you would go on a date and that was all it meant for some at least. But for those who wish to hear a man say those words, be encouraged there are Men who still feel this way about a women. If you are a Virtuous Women you will allow God to pick him and not yourself.

                                            Do you believe Our God can really be into you?

If not, please think again,,, I totally believe God is Pleased with Many Women of Zion, But they Lack a sense of intimacy with him because they only can see him as a father and not much more. But Scriptures says he is ALL THINGS to them that truly are believing in the faith! If you are lonely he is your comforter, if you are sick, He is your Healer.  So you can depend on his unfailing Love towards you. 

So tell me why do you lack faith that he is a rewarder to them who diligently seek him? It's a new season and even though many of you have been in a waiting season, the promises are still there. We just have to trust on God until he is ready for us to have what he want us to have. So what shall I do while I wait on The LORD? You fall in Love with Him, and allow GOD to Help him find you, so that he can satisfy what God's already started in you! I can tell SOMETHING is UP Because "LOVE" IS IN THE AIR.......

We have been swepted away by all the modern day Love songs, and forgetting that the true Essence of Love was built from back in the day where being Wholesome and pure was a good thing. Do you want to know my take?  GOD IS UP TO SOMETHING...

"By  His GLORY He shall create A Union of Love"

In his own Character is the Essence of his LOVE for all his creation. He Love you whether you love him or not, but he will invite you to Journey with him as he show you what True Love really is!  For many has accepted the Love he offers through the Journey, But there have been many who rather find it for themselves.

But for them who have shared in his Love, knows it only gets sweeter and sweeter! It's not like Man's Love. For God's Love you can depend on, through the good and the bad. On your best days and your worst days his Love shall always surround you! If you are still with me, Say "GOD IS UP TO SOMETHING".......

 I blog about the Love of Man and the Love of God because something is in my heart! I may not yet know all the details or the entire direction in which it shall enter but one thing I do sense GOD IS UP TO SOMETHING!! And I believe I'm not the only one who can feel a shift and change of Wind coming their way.

 I can feel intimacy in the words that are shared in this song! Maybe It's just me, But God will us any tool to get your attention in order to show his fullness in your life! I believe GOD hand is over me and many women here who have been pregnant with a child, And Morning has come!  Though I awake early I hear a love song, singing to me as I find my way throughout my day. It's a Love song, which is sung from a Father's Love to me! No more can I reject his Love, for it has kept me safe over the years! I can sense his warm sweet embrace saying the words peace. Call me Old School, But GOD IS DEFINITELY UP TO SOMETHING!

If you are out there no matter how near or far, God have allowed our paths to reach because you and I can feel the wind blowing across our lips! We can feel his presence laying down beside us while we sleep. we can smell his sweet aroma everywhere we go, It makes us to want more and more of him! For he  have taught me I am never alone, as long as He carry me through this Journey of Love with him!.  Thank you God for always showing yourself true in my life!

GOD BLESS YOU WHO ARE ON A JOURNEY OF LOVE TOO!!!

 

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My Heart Goes out to YOU........

VIRTUOUS WOMEN,


  As I look around my church and among many of friends I see the pain and fear we all tend to plague our hearts! So many Women are feeling suicidal and are aborting their dreams and passion, because in many facets of their life, Life just doesn't hold that same beauty it once did!

 Many women are so desperate to finding and fulfilling the desires of their hearts. And living in fear that they will never enjoy these types of blessings so much that many are missing the sole intented purpose GOD created them, For his enterainment and purpose and not our own.  Everyday it seems as if another person is headed for the grave, because their life was tremendously scattered by failed promises and hopeless dreams.

We are in a Hour in which we must fight our way through. As Women who are Single, it's not that we can not be hopeful but We need to place our hope in Christ because he is everything and shall be everything to all of your problems. We cannot place much value on this world for it is forever changing with laws, people, human fralities and unrealistic behavior. For the Married Women, my thoughts to you are to remain faithful and intact to your husbands if you have been blessed to have a wonderful mate that is God fearing, not perfect. So many times we believe the Grass would be much greener than understanding all we need is to water our own field. Because you have been chosen to prepare,teach and provide for your family doesn't mean you are less exciting than others. If you remind yourself how wonderfully made the Virtuous Women appears you can see she was a women who possessed her Love from the inside, an didn't always have to be told what LOVE really is by her husband.

What is our Next Level, Women?

I strongly believe we must LOVE the skin we are in! Take charge to the things you can do to help you become more effective as before. If you are depressed take this time to step back away from all things in which are toxic in your life and re adjust your LENS! Do not begin to get caught up in ungodly rituals which can only alter your future.. Always strive to be that Godly Women in which God Created for her to do all, be all and love all starting with the Women inside of you!

Did you know you cannot be everything to everybody! You must first be caught working on yourself, learning how to identify who you really are inside, and learning to love all of you. Everyday you live you should be trying to correct the things that are visible to you that need to be changed for the betterment of you. Sometimes when things are broken in our past, it's because your past cannot bring forth the many new opportunities that lay and wait ahead of you.

Are you an Original or a Carbon Copy of Another Women?

Many women are captivated in the lives of other women in what they have, and how they are doing this and that, until they never see how much time the Enemy has robbed them of taking care of their own affairs for their lives. It's been on many occasions I felt led by GOD to change my circle of friends. Yet we built a tight friendship but our paths begin to change it's direction. What use to make sense, no longer kept the friendship pleasurable and friendly. God began to reveal the hearts and actions of some of my most closest friends. And even though those chapter end, mainly on the best interest of both parties, but New and Exciting Chapters begin!

A women should never try and be a Carbon Copy of another Women! GOD have a plan assigned Just For You! His assignment for you is to get your own work done and STOP trying to do others work for them. You have alot of potential in which you can only reach. You are made with different desires which will suits your future. So why spend unnecessary time, trying to become a better HER than YOU?

The Virtuous Women is a TRUE Original.......
Her interest and her thoughts of Who she is comes from the LORD! She doesn't really care about what others think of her, because she have learned to listen to her thoughts, and have recognized her own gifts,and is striving to become a better person on the inside as well as on the outside. She does not have time to be wondering around inside someone else's camp, Her Camp alone is very plentiful... Many Women who see her BELIEVES she has no problems, and her life is peachy clean, But if they only knew how much work staying on her knees before the Father and allowing him to correct her ways and actions, and trying to fulfil her destiny and calling they would see she's not a perfect creature. What remains to be different about her is she does not waste her precious time trying to live to be accepted by others, she have grown far past what other's think that she's more interested in what GOD thinks,see's and LOVE about her. Therefore, she have no time to be trying to keeping up with the "Kardashians".....

Are you hurting? Is your Life without Direction? Do you feel hopeless?

If you are hurting GOD is a Healer, If you lack Direction He is A Compass, If you are hopeless He is a Visionary.

Sometimes, Ladies all we need is to re adjust our Lens. Sometimes when it rains your lens get wet, and blurry. It makes you can't see what's up ahead, it makes all  the blind spots be unseen. It makes life look like there is very little meaning.  It makes what you use to see no longer exist. But You have the ability to wipe your Lens off and take new pictures and create new chapters for your life. If you place your trust in Christ he will bring New Light and New Hope to your future.He can do everything but fail you!


GOD Bless You all, For I hope that many of you will begin to adjust your Lens because everything you want and need is ahead of you and not behind you......

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