WiLL I JuSt GoT tO Be FRee............

        Well Guest "Who" I Have today from the Past Another Oldies but Goodies!
                          "Stephanie Mills" and her song: "FREE"
 

    I want women to know, it's okay to declare your freedom, many women feel that if they are not with a man it's a problem with who they are, but that's not really the truth!  Sometimes we have to be a little selfish and be F_R_E_E  from everything that can hold us back and stop us from moving forward in life.  I am not saying that a Man isn't an important factor but if a woman is alone it's completely okay to live and enjoy your freedom without a man by your side.
  
    It has been times in my own life, when I myself chose to be Free other than being in a relationship, mainly because I didn't feel I had the right person in which I would have been willing to sacrifice my time in order to fulfill a positive relationship. Do I regret it No, because If you know that there is something missing then why place yourself with someone you are not completely happy with!

                         Often times Women will opt for a person who they KNOW can never
make them remotely happy just to say they HAVE a man. But WHAT does the statement "I Have a Man" really mean Nowadays?  Is it he's the man in your life, with a commitment and not a bunch of drama or Is it he's the man you are having Sleeping Parties with?  We as women must understand what we want may not be what we are getting. If you are a women who really want a committed relationship, why do you keep going on endless boring dates? Stop saying things like well "Until Mr. Right Comes" I guess I will kick it with Sam, John, or Mark.  And If you are really sure about what you expect in a man why is it you can't take yourself off the market and wait? Let's Address this as well Sisters, Internet dating is still dating! Instead now you are dating men online other than meeting that same man from the streets so it does count even though many you will never meet. Also Many Women have declared they are not dating but still have a man they are in contact with SOMEWHERE on this planet.  Why do we as women continue to PLAY ourselves?
Or should I say why are we so afraid at the Ideal of being "FREE"?

  What does this word "Free" means not imprisoned or enslaved, not controlled by obligation or the will to another: felt free to go.

 Now the purpose of this Blog is to set the record straight about being "FREE".  Many women who are not in a committed relationship with their Male friends act like they are enslaved and imprisoned to that person while he is running around "Free to go".  This behavior is why many women are unmarried and are chained to a man who will never marry them.  I watched this happen to many of my friends and family they had the "HOLD on a Man syndrome" even when the straps had already burst right before their eyes.  I too have made this mistake but I didn't keep the man, finally I had to return him back to his inhabitation. I hope that if you are reading this blog you began to get the courage to welcome your FREEDOM!

 Freedom comes with many benefits, you can go and come as you please without anyone trying to stop and control you, you have all day to pick one thing whether your hair,nails,shop,wash clothes, take the kids places they probably haven't been only because you couldn't go with worrying about when he will be back, or if you tried to go he would call you or not call you and upset your whole day. You can pick a career,church,friends you want to be surround by instead of always having to do things he like or else you will be banded from alot of fun things you use to enjoy! You can also work on you and get some of your lifelong dreams accomplished where your family and yourself can begin to benefit from. Yes, you may have to give up the passion, for a moment but God will Bless your life in doing so.

 Now if you are with someone who makes you happy for the most part and you enjoy the balance you have in your relationship I don't encourage you to cut them off. But this is for women who are enslaved or imprisoned and have to be controlled by the person they love the most. Plain and simple, It's not a HEALTHY thing to ever love another person more than you love yourself or MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF because LIFE IS A GIFT FROM GOD TO YOU!  No person should be given that amount of Love to withstand a positive relationship!


HOW DOES A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP LOOK:

* Both people are considered equal
* Both people expectations should be met by one another
* Both people are Committed to one another and not other people
* Both people intention is to help you and not harm you if you do something wrong
* Both people do take for grant you kindness,wisdom, and faithfulness
* Both people agree with each person need acceptable amount of space to pursue their own dreams
* Both people are supportive to one another
* Both people agree to each others life plan, such as child, careers, environment and lifestyles
* Both people respect and have release their past relationships, & friendships with ex's to remain civil
* Both people will take responsibilities serious, such as house work, cars, and share material goods
* Both people take care of the children whether working out of the home or in the home
* Both people are mature enough to raise the children in a sound environment without abuse
* Both people agree and respect the religious upbringing and doesn't hinder their beliefs


If you do not see any of this going on in your relationship you are in an abusive environment and you are being imprisoned and enslaved by another person.  Though for many this list can be continued  but this list really allows you to see why the relationship or friendship is going down the drain because it lacks structure. In everything we do God intended us to live in a structure environment where we can maintain and take care our families without the cares of this life.  Yes, He knows we will have trials and  tribulations and this shall be from the world and it's day to day agenda but it should not be within our homes we live in and if quarreling is their it shouldn't continue to disturb the home live it should cease after the problem is resolved. Our Children should have peace and not have to be a parent at twelve, because the adults are not able to maintain their own responsibilities.

   I recommend you listen to Stephanie Mills video "Free" because she only reminds us that it's nothing wrong with declaring your FREEDOM and making a decision to just be you! This is a right you was given and if you need time to do you, then do so and stop allowing your circumstances to imprison and destroy you!  May your choices lead you to your destiny and purpose here on earth.  Have a Wonderful day Everyone!

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KnOwInG WHo YOu ArE

                                             
                                                 
Hello: Friends,

The Topic "Knowing Who You Are"  is a very common factor for everyday Living!

Making Sense of Who you are! Everyone is always whispering inside someone ear about you as you walk throughout the Halls, or Inside of your Church or While getting into you car, or While you enter a party or special event but what are they saying about YOU?  Isn't that interesting how everybody is sharing their opinions about who you are other than yourself?

 Today is your Day to find out "Why are you So Interesting".  From the beginning of time I really believe that there were what I call "GUPPIES".  A GUPPY searches for Important about other people without backing up the information they've received about others and they use A EAR HUSTLER to go Ask you about the information they heard to get you to confirm there facts. Guppies are the ones who spread the information to the Ear Hustlers. And most of the time a Ear Hustler can be someone you may already know but thing they would never betray you.  If so think again! Many Guppies are always ready to send untimely, incorrect information throughout the airways to try and mess your reputation up and credibility up among others. What I've learned is Guppies Lives in larger environments such as churches,businesses,state agencies,schools, anywhere people are flocked by the numbers there will be a pool of guppies. 

How do they find Ear Hustlers? They find those who are not popular and people who do not know who they are.  People they can use to just plant around a person who they seek to destroy.  And in some cases Ear Hustlers want to obtain popularity and lack their own Independence and they are willing to gain it at any expense and that is how they are selected. The Guppies are always controlled by a GUPPY LEADER who will send the small guppies out to spread the lies and destroy others life once the Ear Hustlers have conducted their assignment! BUT what most "EAR HUSTLERS" do not know they will be the one alone who will take the fall with the person who is being attacked. All the Guppies will swim away, that is why they are never found and still in high demand.  So if you didn't know you do now, there is a Ear Hustler sitting among your group of friends. How I know, Let you do anything stupid you will see how fast that news will travel.

 She's a EAR HUSTLER

            

        She's been sent to get the scoop from you so she can go share it with others! Look at those eyes she been taught not to let on to who she is!

Testimony:  "A Friend and I was talking and she asked how had I achieved a particular goal? I told her "When we are able to get to know who we are, it just makes life a little easier. I begin to recognize what she said to me because this is how she said it: " Whatever you are doing it is noticeable to others"  this statement alone made me realize she was sent by the guppies to find out my Business.  We'll you know I kept it plain and simple!

What came across my mind was this many people don't even know "WHO THEY ARE AND HOW POWERFUL THEY CAN BE TO OTHERS." Below is a set of question you may want to ask yourself because you may have a lot of great qualities but have not become the person you are destined to be!

WHO ARE YOU?
*Are you a Quitter everytime trouble comes your way?
*Is everyone the enemy and not yourself?
*Do the same people from your Childhood still taking up much of your Memory?
*Do you feel intimidated when others people get more attention than you do?
*Do you feel that everyone want you, but you are still not taken?
*Do you feel that everyone else problems are not as worst as yours?
*Do you always get mad when you witness others become successful of get something they want?
*Do you feel like Life has left you behind, nothing ever good happens for you?
*Do you feel like God is not in your corner?
*Do you feel like you've been cheated?
*Do you believe that you have to lie about everything to have friendships with people?
*Do you think you are not attractive?

                                       Change is Necessary..................................

   When a person feels deprived in everyday life matters this is a symbolic sign they have not reached a certain level of independence. Although they may have a Job, and a lot of wonderful things the facts are they cannot do anything without others approval. If this is the case they may go throughout their entire life allowing others to use them by concealing there true identity. God never intended for his people to allow other people to control there existence. In fact His total plan for a believer is to be totally dependent upon him and not man or ourselves. If you are having a problem with identifying who you are look below and see How you should be answering the same set of questions above.
 

KNOWING WHO YOU ARE:
   When we Know who we are we can no longer operate from the same mentality as before! When you can say this Word "YOU" without waivering then you can see things around you changed for you. But when we use the word " I Do Not FEEL" this means we have not gotten the assurance from within to move forward.  One should never rush at making lifelong decisions, but one should never totally depend on others to approve of them.

WE KNOW WHO WE ARE!

*You choose to never Quit until you see the RESULTS YOU WANT TO SEE
*You recognize you can sometimes become your own enemy from TIME TO TIME
*You refuse to hold onto Bad Memories that made you feel sad, and have discovered the New You
*You enjoy watching people because it only gives you new ideals how to step up your game
*You have learn that patience is a virtual, and you are content all by yourself
*You ARE not focused on problems only solutions
*Your familiar that season's come and go, so there's no reason to becoming bitter
*Your choices determines your outcome, you've decide to remain faith no matter what
*You can see evidence of God in Your life, and you know he's still in control
*You are not going to allow your circumstance to keep you down any longer you have stood your course
*You have learned friendships are fading, But GOD is forever by your side
*You have confidence in which you are reflecting beauty wherever you go,because beauty is skin deep

When we are having problems with our identity we will always have doubts about everything. When we know who we are we will always Recognize,Realize and Recommend that we are respected at all times.

Many studies have shown that many people are driven from a lack of fear than confidence. Maybe the answer is "BELIEVING IN WHO YOU, NO MATTER WHAT COMES YOUR WAY" because at the end of the day you are the only one who will live with the choices you've made over the course of your existence. As for others they will only witness what they've seen or heard about you and without out reasonable facts the Guppies of this World will continue to spread untimely and incorrect info to hurt other people but may be if you've been their Ear Hustlers you will find Independence and no longer allow yourself to be tricked into this cesspool of sin. 

I challenge everyone who will read this blog, to embrace "YOU" while you have a chance! And "lean not to your own understanding about everyday life things" If you never take the time to get to know who you are, How will you know what you can believe and what you cannot?

If this blog helped recharged your faith, then leave me a message! I really believe the world have tried to make many people bitter than set them Free. Tell me what you think?

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iS yOuR mARRiAge iN tROuBLe?

                                              A Marriage In Trouble

                                            


iS YOUR mARRIAGE IN TrouBLE?

       MANY PEOPLE ARE SUFFERING RIGHT within the FOUR WALLS the live! NOTHING IS BEING SAID BUT THE HORRIBLE WORDS THAT ARE YELLED WHEN THE TWO PEOPLE LOOK AT ONE ANOTHER.

        THERE ARE TIMES.................... WHEN EVERYTHING IS GOING SO SMOOTH AND THEN BOOM THE SHIP SOON HITS A LARGE ROCK!


If you are experiencing a life of turmoil, below I will attempt to add a few Healthy Tips to help you begin to turnaround a boat which is trying to go shipwreck with you inside.

     Virtuous Women are the Hardest women to accept and deal with defeat, Even WHEN she's running the Castle why her hubby is away at work, her daily focus is on making and building a better life for her family. She NEVER Listen to the sound of the trumpet, when it goes off, because unrealistically she believes her world is invisible and no one alto dare come near her domain! But if you are Old enough and have experienced many facets of human life, you shall understand no world,person or relationship is soundproof, where the enemy and his army cannot forge a untimely attack!

If  you are under this form of an attack in your marriage in this hour, you must find a place of refuge so that you can retreat while going through this time of battle. And If you are a believer I urge you to study the word of God, Because GOD's Word rules over and far in between man's natural laws!

     Most of the time the battle is NEVER won, from only one side. But it's normally won by both parties learning how to settle their differences!  IF you are a smart woman and I believe you are, you will learn to feel the "Wind in the Air" this means you can sense trouble before the boat goes down. 

   This may come in the form of an attitude, making fun of you and it's never funny,snapping at you for no apparent reason,making excuse to not spend personal time together, not interested in sex, and would rather eat alone than together. These are tell-tell signs, that trouble is about to emerge!  WHY, because each example above means you will have to confront your mate, and this is always the door to a heated discussion.

   WHAT, can you do to avoid some of the most heated argument which sparkles topics such as  separation & divorce. Now before I discuss these remedies, I would like to address I am not a licensed therapist nor do I counsel people at a facility in marriage, but by my experiences with many people who I have helped to remain fruitful in their marriage, this alone makes this topic much easy to share what I've learned.

   NOW, If you are experiencing some or all of the signs above your boat has hit a Large rock! WHAT are you going to do?

   I really hope your answer isn't NOTHING!  Why?  Glad you asked because a marriage is worth the battle when two people really love one another! IT really isn't important how you met, but what is important can the two of you wither this STORM? And trust me sometimes in the marriage you may feel like your in the storm alone, because usually one of the parties will want to give up before the Sunshine come again.

Next, you must make a decision to remain faithful until you get the results you are hoping to see.

   WHY do marriage suffer?   Mainly because their is no such thing as a "Perfect Marriage" it may show perfection along the years, but the facts are "Everyone gets on someone nerves from time to time".  If you are wondering where did you go wrong? Stop, you are in the marriage and it already states things are for "Better and Worst"  it's very funny how many skip over that Word "Worst" and only see "Better".

  Here is a few Tips to Jumpstart your Marriage:

If your mate is starting to become annoying and will not listen to reasoning, this is the sign he has reached his platto BUT it does not mean he has pulled his ship back into the docks! Remember everyday counts, and shall be different with many challenges because "HE's already earned your Trust, and HE knows it! But now he is allowing his ego to get in the way because it comes a time in the marriage when a man must demonstration his Maturity in the Marriage which may sound mean or selfish But he MUST take the led, this means you no longer have power over him because he chose you as his wife. But he must become the Head, and by doing so you must take your new position is to allow him to lead you,and teach you what he already know. Many Women find this hard and fail miserable here because she's not comfortable letting him make all the decisions and this is what tends to sparks many fights along the way!

Start out everyday, by saying I Love You, because the word of God says: "Love shall cover a multitude of Sins" and remember neither party is without fault to the attack!  When you say "I LOVE YOU"  this one statement let's him know you are fully aware what is up for grab and in this kind of attack you must recognize what is the enemy trying to destroy in your marriage.  It's not your friendship alone it's the "LOVE" That made you feel you could not do without this person in your Life!

When he tells you "Stop saying you Love Me"  this is when guilt has sit in. He already knows he's been placing pressure where one can become bothered with it's measurements, and because there is no easy fix when a relationship begin to experience the waves of life, the only thing you will have is your promise by God and your faith he will do what his word says he will do!  WHAT is the Promise?  Gods word say: "Let No man separate, destroy what HE has brought together"  this is a powerful statement and in this statement alone it can tell alot about what or who brought you to your spouse. Also if you are willing to remain faithful unto God he can also deliver you if your marriage wasn't but built on "Love" but instead on"Convenience".  It will be totally on what you pray for your end results to be and what HIS plan is for your life with your spouse.  

If you are ready for the battle you must "Pray for your Husband" because without prayer nothing will change!  So now If  he has said to you stop telling me you love me, then now say to him " I am praying for you"  this really changes things around on him, He will immediately resist it, BUT prayer always allows GOD to get involved and begin to heal problems that will try and plague your marriage! 

If he begins to mention, I want out of this marriage, or maybe this isn't going to work! Find out what is the key element he is having trouble with YOU about! Do not demand for him to excuse you for this shortcoming, but better yet, deal with this new found information, because if you don't it will eventually destroy the marriage. 

Now if you are willing to make the adjustments and demands the other party has asked of you, then it's can be looked upon if the demands are within reasonable measurement a time of growth so move forward because you really don't want to be left behind, really if he's a good man, and he only wants you to do better, believe it or not, Men have alot of "Saying Power" they are Satellites when it comes to human error.  They can easily detect a way to solve a problem without the emotional "mumble jumbo". Women are crazy about everything! We like to make a situation bigger than what it really is, really when we do not agree with the demands! 

     Far too many times women open the door for their spouse to leave, If you know the circumstance can be forgiven, why not just forgive them? But depending on the severity some may be forgiven with restrictions!

Now there are some circumstances such as INFIDELITY which cannot be overlooked and should be examined why did your spouse clearly make a decision to cheat on you! If you are experiencing this Storm, It can be conquered by forgiveness as well, but you have to get the root of this seed so you can force existence of this seed out from among your lives. And you may want to pray,and seek counseling to indicate where is the corporate of this seed which was sent to destroy your marriage. 

  Now what is considered a Corporate?
     A corporate can be a person, place or thing which continues to emerge this seed to grow everytime your spouse or yourself is around, it can be planted by conversation, pictures, or images which are trying to distract your thoughts of a healthy marriage! UNFORTUNATELY, many people around you will not want to see your marriage last, and some will go to great measurements to cloud your judgment about your decision to remain married!

    It's that old saying: Misery Loves Company, But "WISDOM MAKES FOOLISH MEN BECOME BELIEVERS".  You have to build friendships with people who are in the same season your in, because they are your examples in most cases! NOW, you don't have to do what they do totally but you can learn tidbits from them whether good or bad!
 
    There is a time which is my last point for today, when a marriage can become "STALE" when the marriage becomes "Stale" this means the same old things have run there course and now you and your spouse must begin to adventure out to put certain things back into different areas of your marriage to make it enjoyable and not boring! If you know what he likes most about you and what you like about you it's not hard to make the necessary changes to save a "STALE" marriage.

     As the Women must learn to stay always one step ahead because what you will not be willing to do someone else will show they can!  So from time to time, a women must  learn to reinvent herself, she should change her style, in clothing, hair, and keep your weight portioned to your body frame.  Many men only get bored because you never change your look up for him to feel like he has the best women on the market!

    And if you do not believe me, One of the most complaints a man will mention why he wants to go is this:  "YOU USE TO IN THE BEGINNING LOOK A CERTAIN WAY AND WOULD DRESS A CERTAIN WAY AND BE WILLING TO DO THINGS WITH ME A CERTAIN WAY" And the truth is you did!  This has been a age old truth, women get way to comfortable to fast in a relationship, they are the corporate in their relationships to drive a man away, wearing head scarfs, no make up bare minimum, wearing big panties,  you can spark a man by just changing the fragrance your using from time to time, and using precious soaps and body gels.  Men really enjoy and notice new things a woman do.
A women also must remember, you don't have to be a sexed crazed person in the bedroom, but you must from time to time, excite him by changing the playtime around with different techinques and make all those time about you and him, turn off the cellphone, and TV.  He will appreciate you more becaue you are willing to let him have this part of you for himself.

    LAST, but not least keep the intimacy going by conversation! Send a I love you text from time to time, Even when you don't feel it, because sometimes we look for excitement to be always presence when infact you have to know how to regain it's strength in a relationship!  Make spontaneous plans for him to enjoy and READ how the Proverbs 31 Women in the Bible made her Husband happy!

   This blog today was to attempt to encourage other's who are going through a transformation that each marriage discovers in different ways to grow and nourish the marriage. Even though it's contents are not always pleasurable but it's intent is to strength the foundation in which you both laid when you entered into the "Marriage".


 This too you shall overcome!  If you enjoyed this message leave me a comment, I want to know what my reader's like and the topics they enjoy!  I enjoy sharing ideals and topics, that will help the rebuilding of a Women's Faith!


     NEVER PANIC so fast, Your boat may not be shipwrecked it may just need to be taken out to the shore more often! Have a Wonderful Monday.......


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What do A Virtuous Man Wants in A Virtuous Women....

  Hello, All My Virtuous Sisters.....................

I want to share this video,
By: Truprince

A Virtuous Women Daily Living would like to help repair the broken vessel and true beauty that lies within the Virtuous Woman. May be you've ask yourself  "Am I worthy to be called AVirtuous Woman"? I've made many mistakes and some of the things I've done does not reflect a Women of Virtue. But I stopped by to encourage all my Sisters, there is True Virtue inside!

 As I sit down alone reading my paper I visualize a Women who had been divorce and it really took time for her to fully forgive herself for not being able to save her marriage. But through her pain she went to seek Love to fullfil the void her husband once did, but after many years she was no longer the women he wanted to love as so he promised in his vow to her. She became overweight and suffered depression and her entire facial features had changed. She was still very attractive don't get me wrong but because she had  to cry herself to sleep every night hoping her husband would come home from always working late, she developed dark rings around her beautiful hazel eyes!  One day she stopped her Husband before he went to go have his Morning Shower, She said Honey, "Tell me why you don't Love me anymore, Because from what I see you don't want my touch anymore? And this is how he responded I have always Loved you, this my love you must know, But the fact that you lost your Virtuous Ways, I miss that women in you, she was the love of my life, my best friend, when I needed her arms to hold me instead of nag me you would not let me end, I watched you change over the years, My beautiful wife begin to allow her true beauty to die within! Now instead of going to the spa, you rather go out and eat with your friends, now instead of buying a sexy piece to wear for me, you force me to hurry up when I try to make love to you from within, now you blame me for all your pain, even when I'm at work and several miles away. I look at this women I live with and have prayed earnestly that my Virtuous Queen will come back home to me once again!

Her eyes were filled with tears running down her face! She dropped on her knees and Asked God to bring her back to that place. That place of hope where it all began and that is when he brought her that Virtuous Man.  She admitted to God He was the void, and not husband anymore. Then she realized, Her time was up with this man. Infact she did lose her way, but it didn't mean God did not want to restore her in a Greater Way!

A Short Story!
By: K.Thomas
Sisterhoods Bookclub

Many Virtuous women have infact lost their way, because they lost their mate amd who they once were. But it never to late to enjoy the life God will create in for and with you. I believe if you watch a Man tell you who is the Virtuous Women, and what she should be acting like you will recognize she still live within you! Sister's believe this, there are still men of Virtue, But Who we are will definitely reflect who we shall  pick! If you are Virtuous Women on sunday, and  a freak monday thru saturday you will definitely pick a man who just will go to church with you. But if you are devoted to the Life of Christ you will want a man who offers his spiritual protection over you and you will not be satisfy until he makes you his wife!  "Truprince", reminds us who we are and what we although to be doing in order to be connected with a Virtuous Man. He breaks it down for you to understand where you may have lost you way.....


I hope you enjoy this Video, and May God Bless you for Tuning in Today, Have a Wonderful Day!


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"ThE eXprEsSiOn Of LoVe"

Hello Everyone,

Today I want to share a message which shows the first of many expressions of LOVE. Though this is the First expression which always leads to intimacy it's speaks loud when mouths are silenced but it carries great power and substance inside this gesture of Love between a men and a woman. It is the expression of "Holding Hands". 

Did you know when you hold hands with someone, it's a very intimate message you send to each person as well to others who watch you displaying your affections towards one another?

Today, I am reminded in so many ways Love can be expressed!  Many times we look to hear a person state verbally "How much they Love You" instead of allowing True Love to be found in it's expression or gesture. But Love has many different expressions and if they are recognized you can sense a meaning within each expression.

Love is a very deep subject, and for most people if they've been hurt it's a topic many care to talk about because their concept is now "True Love" doesn't really exist aleast from their perception. Their ideal of what Love is only is based on how that person made them feel when they exchanged heat, or when that person Kissed them for the very first time and so on. But it's very interesting you rarely hear people bragging about their first time holding hands with one another and how much intimate they became with this expression.

Does this expression of Love shows great or equal benefits as well as being told you are loved or being Kiss?

If you are lost, we are talking about the expression of Love by Holding Hands! Now if you are somewhat a hopeless romantic you may see It does! But it's contents are highly overlooked. Now, for me when a MAN holds my hands I sense a ownership,really liking me,intimacy,mutal bond connection. If I be truly honest I never hold hands just because! It's normally with someone I may feel I am interested enough into before sharing this expression with. 

I know it's crazy but it's that one expression of Love people rarely talk about because it's a silent expression which  carries a Great Weigh before two people usually enter down the journey of Love! Infact when I see two people holding hands it reminds me of Love and how they must be In Love! It's a very silent but at the sametime loud gesture of Love. And it shows the direction in which the person's are acknowledging for one another such as the territorial strength of their relationship and is openly display to let others know they have reached a mutal bond with one another.  If a man feels comfortable with a woman and he choose to hold her hand, he is making a geniune statement of Love and sincerity towards her and she as well toward him.  For I am forced to look back over the hands of Love I've shared with men, but I must be honest the one's who we shared the strongest love was the one's I held more the hands of.

                                               Can you remember Love?

Now, when you Hold the hands of and potential Love interest it's an expression of Trust. It allows both parties to recognize they are walking in the same direction and they share a mutal bond and connection. When you hold your mate hands you immediate exchange ideals, and open the door for more ways to show your expression of Love to one another.

If you are with a person and they never hold your hand what does this mean?

It only tells that true intimacy is being ignored or may not be a option at that moment. And if that person pulls away everytime you try and hold their hands this states they are not physically attracted to you enough to recognize or even consider this expression of Love. Perhaps, this is their way of drawing a fork in the road to imply what the nature of your friendship is!

If a person have a sound interest in you they would never be ashame to hold your hand. Actually if they have feelings for you they will want that closeness. If it's your first time holding hands, it's possible the other person is trying to get you to know they want more intimacy with you!

Even though it's the most least of the expression it holds much power. It is the one expression which opens the door to all the other expression of Love. Love is personal and when a man holds a women hand whether publicly or privately he is choosing to open his door of affections up to her. He has realized that she is somone he believes he can trust with the truth and with his heart. We must stop waiting to only hear the Expressions of Love but recognize what we see in people who makes those expressions toward us!

If you've ever wondered why people hold hands, because they are physically attracted to one another. Both people are comfortable with the thought of being each others, and they have consciously decided that they will no longer try to direct the Journey of Love by the Expression of Love and by holding hands!

I hope you who read my blogs understand Love is the greatest gifts of them all, without Love you can never move forward and you can never experience True Intimacy if you do not reach a common goal for the many different expressions of LOVE.......... I hope you enjoy the The "Expression of Love".

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Where did her Virtue Go?

"Tonight is the Night"..............

By: Betty Wright                 

We can never assume when and where it will happen for our Children but It's bound to take place!

This message today may be a little off the Topic because it deals with a story of a Young Girl, in Love and wanting to prove her love and at the sametime losing her Virginity to become A Woman!  Although she was still rather young she realized herself that there are consequences, when we play with sin, she still rather particpate with the process because she wanted to win the heart of her lover. So her story begin, "Tonight is the Night". As a parent we tend to dread this moment because we know it comes with many different consequences and majority of the time, we as the parent will have to deal with the problems that may stem for our own children actions. So we try and push this topic further and further away, hoping because they are young they may not be quite ready. But as she sings her song, she talks about her being a very young girl trying to become a women, because her boyfriend told her he would make her a Woman. 

But what she may have thought before going along with her boyfriends suggestion, A Woman will carefully look at all that she is risking before moving forward and then determine is this the "RIGHT THING" for her and not make it all about him. Perhaps, she did, but Love got the best of her. But what we women tend to miss is Do the Men we Love Deserve what we are trying to give away so fast?

I picked this Song, because Betty Wright goes through her song, the way it normally goes down! She doesn't forget to tell her fears,and concerns in this event, She also touches her fears and reservations of her Mother finding out and what shame and pain her decision would have cost not only herself but her family. And then she acknowledge her Rebellion. Perhaps (Betty) Became (EVE). She actually broke it down to show how young girls are wisked away by this spirit of Love. And if you listen to the song in it's entirety you will hear her own innocence and sacrifice which was given up for her title as she became a woman. Betty Wright  did a superb job in expressing to her audience just what happens when a girl tries to cross over to womanhood.

I believe that we as parents must deal with this same Topic in our Households, we must not hide the truth and facts for the sake of time. Once that young girl is the age of 13, she need to know about her virginity and what will happen if she gives it away.

She needs to be informed about the Highs and Lows of Love, and How we were created to love one another but we must use sound judgment in doing so! We must share the contents of some of our own experiences with our children in order for them to realize their is no reason to rush, because you can only lose your virginity once! And by talking to your daughters, letting them know the many epidemics of diseases, teen pregnancy, and suicide among young girls who have so much peer pressure among themselves while trying to survive and achieve their education. It shall be then, many of our Mother and Daughter rivalry will end.

I will expose the Secret:

The reason why Daughters have a problem with their Mother's is because young girls admire their mothers freedom. And they believe our Freedom is contributed through sex. This is their (Fruit) that we as parents forbid them like with Eve.  But what they don't understand is why we try and tell them that their is "Consequences" to their actions, and since we are older enough to deal with them, your daughter/son may not yet be mature enough to deal with it on their own! But since they admires your freeness, they too want to experience it for themselves way to soon and in come "Rebellion".

If you and your daughter is always arguing it's because sin  is present! Young girls/women only try and lash their tongues when they are trying to be all grown and trying to push their parents because Just Like:  "Satan told Eve, if you eat of this fruit, you will not surely die." (Gen. 3:4)  and so what happened! She did! Eve was what a Young Girl, She right then lost her "Virtue"  And immediately scripture reminds us she and her husband was separated from her (GOD) which was their what? Virginity!  (GOD) was their Father the (Parent). And because of Sin Rebellion was born! She lost her Virginity with Christ first because she chose in the garden to rebell against him her God!  Why? Because she too was trying to be like Him!

Isn't that the same thing our children do with us? Once the virginity is lose in come disrespect,lying,mouthing off,cursing,fighting,and Because God is a God of peace he kicked them out of the garden. When our children is trying new things there will be signs. Because we are Like God, We already know when something is wrong if we are in tune with our children spiritually.  And rebellion always have friends that will follow beside him. We as believer's must search scriptures to see what sign is linked to what sin that is presence!

So what did (GOD) do when he exposed their sin? He immediately kicked them out of the garden, this was the consequences of  their sin! And since God already told them what he wanted them not to do,and they failed to listen He had to still enforce the rules in his own Garden (House). We cannot kick our children out of our homes, because we must allow them to become of age. But we can talk with them and let them know how sin affects everyone in the household. And if they continue to be a partaker of it's folly they shall be cursed by their own sin.

This message is deep, because we need to address this lying spirit before it gets in the hearts of our children, through their friends and other tools that the enemy will use to persuade them to become a partaker of his plan. Remember Satan is bold, and he is crafty. He will use anything to rob our children from their Inheritance in Christ Jesus. And He knows it works! How he knows it works? Becaused he used it on US!  And I will show how.

Everytime you try and urge your daughters or sons, not to have Sexual Intercourse they will say what? MOM, You did it!  You are standing their looking at this beautiful innocent face and the first defense they will always use is:  Well,You did it! Who is that speaking to you? Satan.  Why does satan uses this same spirit? Because he still tries to convince us today that the sin is OK, and he want to shut the mouths of them who can testify to it's consequence so he stares you right in the face and speaks to you through your innocent childs mouth! Because he knows because of that childs innocents you will shut your mouth IMMEDIATELY!!

 But if we train or children about Christ before hand they  will be convicted of their own participation with this form of sin! We can be as transparent as they can handle but we must speak the truth about it's contents and not allow our children to use it against us! Now, See God he put them out, because he already knew that was Satan, and that spirit would only defile the garden. But he still made provision for them because they were still his children. Now you see, it was the Spirit of Satan, God removed from the Garden that was trying to have the mind of God's Children. That my friend is a Parents Love....

I pray that every reader is encouraged to speak into your childs life, remind them of the promises our God has made with us, allow them to understand the truth that is before them. And never be afraid the ears it shall fall on. I also pray your children ears shall be opened to it's truths! God Bless you.......

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WhO iS BroWn SugAr.........

                                                              Who is Brown Sugar?

Hello Everyone, I just want to share! For Her Skin Tone tells a Deeper Story than what you Think!

Though her skin color is made of many different shades, you are still  "Brown Sugar"..........For many decades our world tend to forget Women of Color have Ruled it all! She was the First of her kind, though her complexion was darker than some she was the one who paved the way for others...

Look below and see how "Powerful  "BROWN SUGAR" really was and Is still today.........

Her Duties:

She was the First Woman to hold a Job:   Brown Sugar was the first women to hold down a regular Job.Although she was place into the fields because of her skin tone, she held the title for women who had to work outside of her own home. And was paid very little wages for the work she did!

She was the First Cook:  Brown Sugar had some "Mad" skills on how to prepare different foods we still enjoy! When you chew on Fried Chicken,Collard Greens,Rice with gravy know this she was up early in the mornings slaving over a Oven trying to prepare"Supper" for a family which was not her own. Her  food was impeccable, and She begin to notice she had been given Ingredients in which God gave her to become a Brilliant Business women with a Niche for Good Old Soul Food Eateries. For her Brown skin  paved her way and helped others as well.
 
She was the First Housekeeper:  Brown Sugar knows how to clean a house. She was known to be the  Servant, Slave or Help. She was told that she must scrub the floors, walls, dishes, countertops and wash all the linen and clothes several times a day. She was the first women to master her skill and take care of a big  Fantasy Home, and she was left in charge to train other house helpers and was given full reign on how to organize her duties day after day.

She was the First Baby Sitter:  Brown Sugar was told to nurse,bathe, watch and teach the children while the Mother was free to shop and tend to her husband so called needs. Brown Sugar became the first Women who Mothered Children in which she did not conceive and whom was not the same color of her Skin. She became the first caregiver.

She was the First Hairstylist:  Brown Sugar had some "Mad" skills! She's trained herself to wear a fro or straighten her sheep textured hair. Many women became jealous of Her true beauty she possess and is still to this day. For she was the one who invented the straightening of the hair through the Stove in order to get her hair to look beautiful like other ethnicity. Her skills range from Braiding to Weaving and everything in between. And many cultures have adapted to her teachings!
   
 She Is the First Woman of Faith:  Brown Sugar talents have always shined higher than any North,South or Eastern star. She created Prayer and Worship. Her daily routine was to pray and sing old hymns as she hung clothes on the lines, and as she rocked the babies to sleep while their mothers took a nap. She always was and is the Greatest Prayer warrior of her kind.


Though she may have been the first women who told a man NO, Stop or  I Can't, does not make her an enemies. Why do other Culture men hate her because she is not easily convinced. She has learned how to become a VirtuousWomen by the barren tone color of her skin. Though she may be different from other women doesn't mean she is not special as well. She may have an attitude and a different types of styling principles but it doesn't justify she's not equal to other women and race. Her Lips may be fuller and she may have a Curvaceous Shape but she is Still "Brown Sugar". Not one women should have ever been ridiculed because of her race. For it's God's choice that he made a shade deeper than others,not darker because we all well go back to the same dirt in which we were made. Next time you see her recognize, she's not just a Women of Color but she God's First Women of many shades and colors. She is the one who have suffered and reigned again and again! She Is a Nubian Queen from many tribes with many gifts and talents. For she shall be recognized as GOD's First Women of grace and her name is still "Brown Sugar"......

 If you don't know, you better ask someone, She's Powerful and Beautiful and Her Name is "Brown Sugar"  Because she have placed her Faith not in things but in values. Hopefully next time you look at "Brown Sugar" you witness the Queen from within!

  When we learn to open our Eyes Up, We can spot the Beauty in All. I hope you enjoyed my blog!
  I have been waiting to sharing this piece with you..........


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LoVe'S MisSion.................................

It's a Day that I remember the Love that surrounds me. It's a Day that I remember who cares the Most for me. It's a Day I find  True LOVE.............

My thoughts among many have driven me to the word "LOVE" and How it is granted to the Heart of a Man through a Virtuous Women. I had begin to watch a Movie on DVD, in which at first I felt it had a boring story plot which was common to other Love Stories.
 
Attention Viewers: I am going to make this Blog Fun!  By challenging all my viewer's to come and Join me, as I give away a Starbucks or Coffee House Gift Card to whomever can tell me the "Name or Title" of this Movie?  Now I shall continue my Blog...........

So As I was saying The beginning of the Story was Boy meets Girl, Boy finds out the Girl he was with was using him, and he discovers it wasn't love for her. So the plot turns around and now Boy meets A Woman and From the moment they laid eyes on each other they found Love....

Why I selected this Story to help me build my blog, because unfortunately we can never as humans say where will LOVE find us! Did your know LOVE has a mission To Find you.......

One of LOVE biggest assignment is to find a place where it shall never end! Believe it or not, LOVE has no end. It can only be contained by two people who allows it's to find rest in them. Many have missed the depth of it's being by only believing LOVE is driven by a emotion and not and assignment. But I will prove that 'True LOVE' has a Mission.

For many Women over the age of 25 now days they find themselves restless,and in fear it will not appear or find it's way home to them, but Love has a Mission and the timing begins when we say we are ready to experience the "TRUTH in LOVE." For many they may have to cross over many mountains to find true love but for others it may be right among the people who live are breathe around you. My question to you are you holding True love in the palm of your hands and don't even know it?

Many times Virtuous Women center their lives around their family and friends, and when they become a certain age group they forget what new Love can bring by looking back at all of their past experience. So they make excuses why they don't need Love and they begin to build fortesses are their lives so that it may not have a chance to find them. And after many years, many become lonely and bitter. Their mind set for themselves and others around them are True Love doesn't exist. Because they forgot to listen to their heart and not only to their painful memories.

But the real truth is they are Afraid of what Love Will DO to them! They are scared that True Love will save them from a life they have designed for themselves, which is lonely and selfish.  Some of them become Cold and Old never allowing True Love to enter in again!

(HINT): "She became confused and lonely, but LOVE had a Mission and it had her name and address
attached to it's Invite." Just think if she wasn't willing she would have missed her one True L ove.

But In the end TRUE LOVE conquers ALL!  Why Because for Most Men being with a Women who is loving, and not afraid to give him her all speaks volumes to his soul. Even when he never let her know he has heard her cry. In fact God have given them a Silent ear which allows them to know when a Good thing is for them! And though many great women have been abused by their behavior does not excuse LOVE's mission. Because we are not the one who offers Love, we are the recipients of his Love!

In the Movie (She) had to cut the relationship off,  because she didn't understand LOVE's mission. She allowed the fears of her failed marriage and the opinions of her friends to stir her away from LOVE's mission, her excuse for not receiving it was placed back on him, and how she felt she would only
rob him from what Love would one day offer him. But little did she know LOVE had chose her.

Now FiVE years later, they run smack face to face in a.................  What seemed to have been many years to them was on a few moments for us the viewer's but what made it all worth the while when you see how LOVE's mission had been restless,but silence wanting to finally find it's place home! Both had the same feeling at the sametime for LOVE's mission. After looking in one another eyes again, LOVE was still calling and craving for it's home.... I cried for them, because he already Knew what she had to find out, for herself in the beginning! It reminded me of LOVE's mission in my life! Today I found LOVE'S mission, I began to see that Love was not just a feeling it was like he said to her "it was about timing" Thank GOD he had her in his heart and never forgot LOVE's call for her.  She found out that you can contain many things but when LOVE rings you Must answer it's CALL! This time she allowed LOVE to complete it's mission!

How many times we as Virtuous Women Fight with LOVE's mission? But yet we say we want to experience TRUE LOVE! We would risk growing old and lonely than enjoy LOVE's Mission..  So many women have draped themselves in beautiful clothes, fake hair and long beautiful nails,Fantasy rides to satisfy a craving for love. They have told themselves, If I look good that's good enough! Perhaps, for some it will be their call, But for them who believe LOVE has a mission to find them,  listen to rhythms of your heart! Allow LOVE's mission to teach you what will be required to hear his call. It's okay to want LOVE presence because GOD is LOVE's Mission. So when he Calls you will you just let the phone ring or will you finally answer HIS Call?

As the Story ends LOVE finds it's HOME.... How funny, I said to myself, LOVE has a home, yet it's released from one to another, though it may become restless when it's not released but once it's found it's home and the mission is completed it's free to grow and blossom as it was created.

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"WhO ShAll GuArd HeR HeArt"

Who shall Guard the Virtuous Women's Heart?

I was looking at different post, AND and The Lord said this to me, Whom shall Guard HER Heart? He led me to the scripture: Phil. 4:7
" And the peace of God, which surpasses (ALL) understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus"

 God is speaking to his daughters, He want them to know that "TROUBLE don't last always! Many are going around trying to give up all that they are, but the only thing God ask of his Children is for them to surrender there Heart unto him.  We can allow ourselves to be fooled because when we are not standing in complete obedience, we will want the blessing more than the prize.

What is God saying? I know your HEART, though you make alot of empty pleads to me, and Some are of Good intent but, Is your Heart right with me? Can you say that you are not still hiding things in your heart against people you don't know? Have you forgiven yourself ? Repent and Forgive them for they Know not what they do...

Sometimes, we are still holding on to past events, and we find ourselves carrying around such baggage in which we try and shut doors that were meant to Love and help us rebuild. We become are so angry,envious and disrespectful to them in which God has sent to us, to grow from. It's one thing to try and use a person to gain a name for yourself, but it's completely another thing when we down right try and hurt someone's else name who has tried to be good to us in the "Jesus" name. I really believe God is saying "Check Your Heart" we can all put on a front in front of the person we are not so fond of or people who do not see the wickness which is hidden in our hearts by the Evil one. But, Have you ever thought, maybe they can see what is in you? People are Notorious for allowing the devil to ponder things in which is not of any value in their heart among their brothers and sisters!

God says this, Proverbs 27:19  " So A Man's heart reveals the man"........................................

What's in your Heart against your Sisters and Brothers? If you can speak one day and laugh and talk, then why the next day you have chosen to no longer speak or look there way? When we proclaim the name of Christ we must accept all that he represent and not just what is fitting for us!

Many people believe they can wear a honor of unforgiveness and be considered righteous, "WRONG" you need to Check your Heart! We do not choose who God will send our way, yet we must not be so anxious to build ungodly relationship with those who can cause us to stumble. But we must remain and live in a life of Forgiveness. Who have you wronged that had to Forgive you? This table is always shifting one to another.

If you are here today and your Heart is troubled by someone you feel has wronged you, Maybe you should ask them why and where did you go wrong! Or send a small message wrapped around forgiveness. If you already have peace than God is with you, And now you can Love them now without Limits! This does mean be foolish, but this means you accept who they are and will no longer allow them to continue to disrupt the peace in your heart!

This message is designed for the Women who Heart is troubled, Who have been in combat with a wronged heart, But let us remember that we are not perfect ourselves and we don't excuse wrong, we grow from it!

May you enjoy your day and Let the peace of God, Guard you heart!!!

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ARE YOU IN DENIAL?

Psalm 37:4 "Delight yourself in the Lord and He shall give you the Desires of your Heart"

Are your desires driven through deception?

Today I want to say if you have been told you was promised a million dollars and it's always been a desire of your own to be wealthy but later you find out it was only a plot for you to pay into so that you will make someone else rich! What would you do?

My guess you would think before you leap. But this spirit of deception is present everywhere! And even though many have a good ideal how they are being deceived but fail to stop this deception for others, May be it's their desire is worth more than the deception. Did you know your name has been added to someone's hit list of deception? Mainly because they can smell your own desperation. Maybe we must learn that you don't have to fall for the madness every single time unless your promise is worthless to you!

Many Believer's will openly say "GOD said", he will grant me the desires of my own heart,but the question is have you DELIGHTED yourself in him? Have you made GOD your Priority for today? Have you utter up any praise or said thank you LOrd at least twice today in other to show your gratefulness for his Love shown unto you!

Are maybe your to busy trying to become your own potter and you want him to become your clay. Perhaps this is where your denial begin! A lot of people can not distinguish between what is hidden and what is not. So with this alone you are never qualified to be the Potter! Yes your education have bought you a name and position but their are area's in your life you can't help yourself and many are mad and disgusted by it!


How and why does God stops Deception:
One of God's Glorious character is to warn us, he urges us in scriptures to do not be anxious for "Anything" because most of the time as a Human, We all See what we want to see and leave what is not any interest to us at the door. Next, God will not allow you to pursue the promise, but the wisdom to the promise. Have you ever heard God say to you "DON"T DO THAT" when you could have slaughtered your enemies? He will always try and keep your physical hands from trying to become the POTTER he only wants you to be the HIS Clay! A Potter always protect his fragile surfaces, because this is where HIS best definition begins. Though the situation may begin all messed up doesn't mean necessarily the master piece cannot be revamped into it's intended purpose! God always begin with rough end. He sculptures the lives of humans who lives was broken....

        "Perhaps your life is broken and you are in need of a Potter"  His name is "JESUS"......


God's Purpose:
In our Scripture God's warn the believer that even though they sing songs of joy, love to him and strive to walk upright before him, they to shall be sheep waiting to be slaughtered if they are not prepared by his word. Because he knows what you do not know, He see's what you don't see. And he tells you openly whom your attacks will be centered by your adversary Satan! He then encourages the believer to get knowledgeable of his adversary as he is with you, learn his attributes and watch his ways! For if you look long enough you will find his plot can two be destroyed. But you have to see with your spiritual eyes! If you have been deceived lately maybe you better order some spiritual lens,immediately. Sorry to just say it for what it is but you need HELP! You need a Savior who cannot only heal you, but can protect your fragile edges as the Potter can certain do.  For God Specialize in showing us the truth, and if we can not receive it, he will offer it in many ways until you can want no more. But many of us, God uses our deception to shape our Rough Edges.

God will Protect your Rough Edges:
People have many rough edges and prejudices which delays many promises! What are the rough edges? Your perception of what is done to you and what is for you. Many are driven away by their own lustful desires when a person is being equally nice to them, they immediately think this person wants them. Sad but it's the truth. Many women have a poor perception of themselves. Many have been abused by what they felt was good and later found it was not good in it for them. Didn't your MOMMA ever tell you everything that Glitter isn't necessarily gold, some are just gold-plated!

I have notice many Believer's live in total denial, Though the word of God tries to correct our thinking, Many of are still driven by the desire to be or become. It's nothing wrong with becoming a great person with a great name people respect, but when we are in denial in how we are being perceived by others that is where denial begins! Remember less than half people you know will ever see you the way you,really want them too.

Solution:
We should never try and walk in another's footsteps! For the shoes you already wear need to be laced up from time to time, we all lose our steps and sometimes fall from our place, but I have learned that the steps I have been given to walk were designed for me. So I settled this longtime ago, I will not try and be someone's else best masterpiece, I have made it my mission to only become the best I can be. If we as women begin to find a happy place in where we are, we can see the provisions in which God has made for us to enjoy! We don't always have to wear the same hats as our sisters to enjoy the same benefits.

If you are in denial ask God to give you a clear perception to what you are trying to do or become. Ask him to guide your every footstep as his increase your space. Stop always asking for the solutions of others whom may not understand where it is your headed. If we learn to allow God to order our footsteps he will bring those who we need into our pathways.

You are NOBODY'S FOOL... For many Women desires have been warped by their own decisions... It is time we begin to stop allowing people to dictate our self-worth and begin to make ourselves a priority to the equation as we begin to seek love,friendships,courtships,business deals,ministries and spiritual positions. God's plan was for us to be informed than misinformed. Forgive those who have tried to be a hinderous unto you and move forward so you may have properly time to gain your promise which was designed for you!

I hope this message encourage those who have been misleaded and have been in a state of denial. For it is the hand of the evil one to deceive Gods people, But the hands of GOD brings correction.  God Bless each and everyone of you..

             "Let not your Heart be troubled because your Father in heaven knows what you have need for"




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ArE yOu ReAdY tO BeCome A wIFe?

Are you ready to become A Wife?

 Does the Vision of Marriage have you in bondage with the reality of Who you shall be............

To many women want the fairytale but do not have a clue to what is required within a marriage. If you are seeking God for your mate please be clear there are many things you should already possess before entering into a matrimony relationship. I have witnessed many women who are more in a race down the aisle not for the gift of being in love, but only so she can have the benefits which come with being a wife. 

 The First Key to a Healthy Marriage is Love, it's where it all began and Love is what shall keep you connected! Second is Faith, in yourself and your mate, Third Respect to Love each other inspite of your flaws, Fourth Equally Yoked to one another by same interest and desires for your future. If you have the basic fundamental of what it takes to become a Virtuous Wife, You Shall be headed for a Successful Marriage. But what can become a Deal breaker may be Religious Views. If you are walking with God before he comes along, it's vital that he doesn't hinder you but become apart of the plan GOD's already planned for you! Understand Women tend to change their views,focus and achievements over time.

Women between the Age of  (25-35) all believe that Love is all they need. She believes foolishly that once she take on his name she will never have to worry about anything, Her desire is to please him, and become the Mother of his children. She also knows she doesn't have much to offer back, so she may choose to place her plans on hold to help him become the main bread winner. And she may decide to end all her past friendships because her image of marriage is based around being his biggest supporter and anyone who could get in the way with her plan is now their enemy. 

Women between the Age of (36-44) are caught up with trying to become a mother and her focus of marriage is based on creating a family. Her Love for him is good but now that she's feeling like her biological clock has been ticking she is more selfish and have the thoughts of becoming a mother at the top of her agenda. Her husband has become her human punching bag, She will fault him easily for everything, from losing the toothpaste cap, failing to pull the toilet seat down, from eating all her snacks up etc... She is just bothered by his existence, and have placed total blame on him why her life isn't perfect.

Women between the Age of (45-55) is content with herself, and having a companion,to travel,talk and make love too. Now that her children are adult age, her life is based around what she wants for herself. Her plans are to encourage her children but know surround herself around new things! She has become each one of their children personal reminder of how her husband and her place certain values in them. Her husband is no longer the LOVE of her life he is her life. They are able to rekindle a love who have suffered many changes and may have withered many storms together. She is more at peace with him and where their marriage is headed.

Women between the Age of (56-Up) are ready for her legacy and teachings to be placed in the hearts of her grandchildren. She is busy trying to encourage her children who are not married yet to find wives, and has her eyes on watch for descent son-in-laws. Her time is measured around being a wife, hobbies and recreations. If she is a healthy women, her husband along with herself are trying to treasure there moments.. They are about spending quality time walking,talking thinking about their past and what the future holds for the both of them.

Marriage is what you make it to be! You can start your marriage off by first asking all the right questions, by securing the both of your life plans. If you select someone for wealth and prestige you may find that his money may secure your future but will not be the key tool in keeping the marriage from suffering human fralities. Selecting "LOVE" is a great way to begin, but know Love alone doesn't pay your bills, be careful that he can meet your needs as well. Many women are suffering from the lack of Sex and so they marry for pleasure and forget that outside of the Matrimony bed, you must live with all his corky ways and flaws. It's better to find more in common than less. For Marriage was intended to become a union and not be abused by personal addictive behaviors.

If you are ready and willing to now become a Virtuous Wife, Make sure you line your thoughts and plans up with God's because he knows,holds and shall become the both of you all future. Congratulations, to our Virtuous Sisters!

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A VirTuOus WOmAn iS NeVeR AlOne.........

Matthew 28:20

"teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always,even to the end of the age." Amen.

  For All Women feel alone, For All Women must walks alone, and For All Women who shall stand alone!
 There is Peace while walking with Him....


My message is driven to my Virtuous Sisters, who are thinking like A "Women". Thou, your flesh may grow weary but you are NEVER alone, unless God Spirit leaves you!


How are you not alone?
Believe it or not there are millions of God fearing women who feel lonely! And many of them are not single. Some are married,single,divorced and widows. But if you are a Believer God states we are never alone, for his is with us everywhere we go!

Why are so many Women Alone?
They have missed opportunities,broken relationships,poor life choices,dysfunctional family issues,wayward past,childhood abuse,sexual abuse,abandonment,lose of a spouse,confusion,disruptive addictions,drug and alcohol addictions and the list goes on. Anytime you are dealing with disappointment or depression you will immediately feel a sense of isolation. You may have a busy life, and Many things to do to help others, but tell me "WHO HELPS YOU"?

Problem:
Women are very notorious for trying to help fix others lives, and rarely planning time to fix their own. Infact, some are so envious of Women who have ventured out to fix their own life's to better suit what they wish to acheive. And when a Women try to make a stand for the betterment of herself, she is persecuted than rewarded for being a problem solver. If you are going to be a women in this day and wish to solve the issues of Why maybe you feel lonely you must began to solve them from the inner woman inside. This will require you to spend not 15 minutes to pray about your needs, But what it will require is you spending time with you! It's a Journey you will find it shall make you understand who you are and why you've always felt alone.

The Journey:
This Journey walk is the Journey of the unknown,unseen, and the undiscovered! As we are all formed to
develop a day to day lifestyle schedule we all begin to recognize we shall contribute to this world by different views,standards and social beliefs! And we learn that our beliefs are no longer governed by our peers and families who may share a different view or perspective. We may become depressed and disappointed by the indifferences our "Fans" have left our side and now we must become the wind beneath our own wings! Moving on alone with a life of many uncertainly can make one feel alone or lonely from the inside. Having personal identity struggles can make one feel alone, Having no true supports for your cause can make one feel lonelisome and being rejected can tapper with one's ability to become successful alone!


Plan:
We as Women must learn to take a moment and just breathe the Air around us! Stop basing every moment around change and embrace the moment you are in. Sometimes we must be alone, to find who we are so that when change comes we can make the necessary steps to become apart of the changes that were made. Face it, Women aren't easily accustomed to change, We will fight change, when we've built empires in which we believe or sound proof. We have to allow God to show us HIS vision and HIS plan for our lives and stop taking all of lifes issues into our hands and trying to solve them like we are HIM.  We have been given a title to become a "HELPER" until we are Married and then We will become a "HELPMATE". Even though a Virtuous Women hands are always apart of something doesn't mean all the responsiblity and efforts should be laid upon her.

Solution:
Every women owes it to herself to take 7 days throughout the year to "Do Something for Herself" this means you can pick 7  days to "Do You"!!  YOU can include who you like, but the one's who causes the most stress should be left at home.lol.... This may be time spent to go have a beauty spa day, hair and nails, join friends for shopping spree's,Go to a play or believer's conference,take in a good movie, spend a day to catch up on reading, jot down a things to do list, Go out to dinner at a Five Star Restaurant, Buy a Fabulous Outfit, Get a New Look, Travel, or go on a retreat. Whatever you choose to do make the day about "YOU". Pencil "YOU" into your Planner!! No excuses, make time for yourself, and Get a Babysitter, someone to pick the kids up from school, all squared away before your day's come.This does not mean fit the Family around your schedule, But Take a Day for you alone!!

Remarks:
Many women have grown lonely because they are trying to wear many hats, which have taken them away from doing things to self build who they are in the inside. They never have time to live,laugh and breathe. Everything become about the bills,family and Work. Rarely are they given a "DAY OFF" and it is sad but our people who we love the most will try and take advantage of your willingness to be apart of everything they do, until when you ask to be dismissed from something they become angry with you! Many Women like Esther in the bible was order to Cleanse herself, and wait in the presence of the LORD as he would begin to heal her,cleanse her,place desires and Hope in the inside of her in which could have been stolen had she failed to listen to his instructions. A day to replenish,rediscover the women in the inside will not take you away from who you have become, But it will certainly shape you into the Women you will need to become over time.And you may discover you are never alone, and there are many women like you who need to rediscover themselves as well.


I hope you understand it not all about everyone, and everything around us, but sometimes it's about who we are and not only determined by what everyone else needs or want from us. Make time for you and do not forget you are a priority! GOD  BLESS MY SISTERS!! You may post your comments and testimonies to help support others!! And Don't for to Join our Page.....

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