WiLL I JuSt GoT tO Be FRee............

        Well Guest "Who" I Have today from the Past Another Oldies but Goodies!
                          "Stephanie Mills" and her song: "FREE"
 

    I want women to know, it's okay to declare your freedom, many women feel that if they are not with a man it's a problem with who they are, but that's not really the truth!  Sometimes we have to be a little selfish and be F_R_E_E  from everything that can hold us back and stop us from moving forward in life.  I am not saying that a Man isn't an important factor but if a woman is alone it's completely okay to live and enjoy your freedom without a man by your side.
  
    It has been times in my own life, when I myself chose to be Free other than being in a relationship, mainly because I didn't feel I had the right person in which I would have been willing to sacrifice my time in order to fulfill a positive relationship. Do I regret it No, because If you know that there is something missing then why place yourself with someone you are not completely happy with!

                         Often times Women will opt for a person who they KNOW can never
make them remotely happy just to say they HAVE a man. But WHAT does the statement "I Have a Man" really mean Nowadays?  Is it he's the man in your life, with a commitment and not a bunch of drama or Is it he's the man you are having Sleeping Parties with?  We as women must understand what we want may not be what we are getting. If you are a women who really want a committed relationship, why do you keep going on endless boring dates? Stop saying things like well "Until Mr. Right Comes" I guess I will kick it with Sam, John, or Mark.  And If you are really sure about what you expect in a man why is it you can't take yourself off the market and wait? Let's Address this as well Sisters, Internet dating is still dating! Instead now you are dating men online other than meeting that same man from the streets so it does count even though many you will never meet. Also Many Women have declared they are not dating but still have a man they are in contact with SOMEWHERE on this planet.  Why do we as women continue to PLAY ourselves?
Or should I say why are we so afraid at the Ideal of being "FREE"?

  What does this word "Free" means not imprisoned or enslaved, not controlled by obligation or the will to another: felt free to go.

 Now the purpose of this Blog is to set the record straight about being "FREE".  Many women who are not in a committed relationship with their Male friends act like they are enslaved and imprisoned to that person while he is running around "Free to go".  This behavior is why many women are unmarried and are chained to a man who will never marry them.  I watched this happen to many of my friends and family they had the "HOLD on a Man syndrome" even when the straps had already burst right before their eyes.  I too have made this mistake but I didn't keep the man, finally I had to return him back to his inhabitation. I hope that if you are reading this blog you began to get the courage to welcome your FREEDOM!

 Freedom comes with many benefits, you can go and come as you please without anyone trying to stop and control you, you have all day to pick one thing whether your hair,nails,shop,wash clothes, take the kids places they probably haven't been only because you couldn't go with worrying about when he will be back, or if you tried to go he would call you or not call you and upset your whole day. You can pick a career,church,friends you want to be surround by instead of always having to do things he like or else you will be banded from alot of fun things you use to enjoy! You can also work on you and get some of your lifelong dreams accomplished where your family and yourself can begin to benefit from. Yes, you may have to give up the passion, for a moment but God will Bless your life in doing so.

 Now if you are with someone who makes you happy for the most part and you enjoy the balance you have in your relationship I don't encourage you to cut them off. But this is for women who are enslaved or imprisoned and have to be controlled by the person they love the most. Plain and simple, It's not a HEALTHY thing to ever love another person more than you love yourself or MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF because LIFE IS A GIFT FROM GOD TO YOU!  No person should be given that amount of Love to withstand a positive relationship!


HOW DOES A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP LOOK:

* Both people are considered equal
* Both people expectations should be met by one another
* Both people are Committed to one another and not other people
* Both people intention is to help you and not harm you if you do something wrong
* Both people do take for grant you kindness,wisdom, and faithfulness
* Both people agree with each person need acceptable amount of space to pursue their own dreams
* Both people are supportive to one another
* Both people agree to each others life plan, such as child, careers, environment and lifestyles
* Both people respect and have release their past relationships, & friendships with ex's to remain civil
* Both people will take responsibilities serious, such as house work, cars, and share material goods
* Both people take care of the children whether working out of the home or in the home
* Both people are mature enough to raise the children in a sound environment without abuse
* Both people agree and respect the religious upbringing and doesn't hinder their beliefs


If you do not see any of this going on in your relationship you are in an abusive environment and you are being imprisoned and enslaved by another person.  Though for many this list can be continued  but this list really allows you to see why the relationship or friendship is going down the drain because it lacks structure. In everything we do God intended us to live in a structure environment where we can maintain and take care our families without the cares of this life.  Yes, He knows we will have trials and  tribulations and this shall be from the world and it's day to day agenda but it should not be within our homes we live in and if quarreling is their it shouldn't continue to disturb the home live it should cease after the problem is resolved. Our Children should have peace and not have to be a parent at twelve, because the adults are not able to maintain their own responsibilities.

   I recommend you listen to Stephanie Mills video "Free" because she only reminds us that it's nothing wrong with declaring your FREEDOM and making a decision to just be you! This is a right you was given and if you need time to do you, then do so and stop allowing your circumstances to imprison and destroy you!  May your choices lead you to your destiny and purpose here on earth.  Have a Wonderful day Everyone!

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A VirTuOus WOmAn iS NeVeR AlOne.........

Matthew 28:20

"teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always,even to the end of the age." Amen.

  For All Women feel alone, For All Women must walks alone, and For All Women who shall stand alone!
 There is Peace while walking with Him....


My message is driven to my Virtuous Sisters, who are thinking like A "Women". Thou, your flesh may grow weary but you are NEVER alone, unless God Spirit leaves you!


How are you not alone?
Believe it or not there are millions of God fearing women who feel lonely! And many of them are not single. Some are married,single,divorced and widows. But if you are a Believer God states we are never alone, for his is with us everywhere we go!

Why are so many Women Alone?
They have missed opportunities,broken relationships,poor life choices,dysfunctional family issues,wayward past,childhood abuse,sexual abuse,abandonment,lose of a spouse,confusion,disruptive addictions,drug and alcohol addictions and the list goes on. Anytime you are dealing with disappointment or depression you will immediately feel a sense of isolation. You may have a busy life, and Many things to do to help others, but tell me "WHO HELPS YOU"?

Problem:
Women are very notorious for trying to help fix others lives, and rarely planning time to fix their own. Infact, some are so envious of Women who have ventured out to fix their own life's to better suit what they wish to acheive. And when a Women try to make a stand for the betterment of herself, she is persecuted than rewarded for being a problem solver. If you are going to be a women in this day and wish to solve the issues of Why maybe you feel lonely you must began to solve them from the inner woman inside. This will require you to spend not 15 minutes to pray about your needs, But what it will require is you spending time with you! It's a Journey you will find it shall make you understand who you are and why you've always felt alone.

The Journey:
This Journey walk is the Journey of the unknown,unseen, and the undiscovered! As we are all formed to
develop a day to day lifestyle schedule we all begin to recognize we shall contribute to this world by different views,standards and social beliefs! And we learn that our beliefs are no longer governed by our peers and families who may share a different view or perspective. We may become depressed and disappointed by the indifferences our "Fans" have left our side and now we must become the wind beneath our own wings! Moving on alone with a life of many uncertainly can make one feel alone or lonely from the inside. Having personal identity struggles can make one feel alone, Having no true supports for your cause can make one feel lonelisome and being rejected can tapper with one's ability to become successful alone!


Plan:
We as Women must learn to take a moment and just breathe the Air around us! Stop basing every moment around change and embrace the moment you are in. Sometimes we must be alone, to find who we are so that when change comes we can make the necessary steps to become apart of the changes that were made. Face it, Women aren't easily accustomed to change, We will fight change, when we've built empires in which we believe or sound proof. We have to allow God to show us HIS vision and HIS plan for our lives and stop taking all of lifes issues into our hands and trying to solve them like we are HIM.  We have been given a title to become a "HELPER" until we are Married and then We will become a "HELPMATE". Even though a Virtuous Women hands are always apart of something doesn't mean all the responsiblity and efforts should be laid upon her.

Solution:
Every women owes it to herself to take 7 days throughout the year to "Do Something for Herself" this means you can pick 7  days to "Do You"!!  YOU can include who you like, but the one's who causes the most stress should be left at home.lol.... This may be time spent to go have a beauty spa day, hair and nails, join friends for shopping spree's,Go to a play or believer's conference,take in a good movie, spend a day to catch up on reading, jot down a things to do list, Go out to dinner at a Five Star Restaurant, Buy a Fabulous Outfit, Get a New Look, Travel, or go on a retreat. Whatever you choose to do make the day about "YOU". Pencil "YOU" into your Planner!! No excuses, make time for yourself, and Get a Babysitter, someone to pick the kids up from school, all squared away before your day's come.This does not mean fit the Family around your schedule, But Take a Day for you alone!!

Remarks:
Many women have grown lonely because they are trying to wear many hats, which have taken them away from doing things to self build who they are in the inside. They never have time to live,laugh and breathe. Everything become about the bills,family and Work. Rarely are they given a "DAY OFF" and it is sad but our people who we love the most will try and take advantage of your willingness to be apart of everything they do, until when you ask to be dismissed from something they become angry with you! Many Women like Esther in the bible was order to Cleanse herself, and wait in the presence of the LORD as he would begin to heal her,cleanse her,place desires and Hope in the inside of her in which could have been stolen had she failed to listen to his instructions. A day to replenish,rediscover the women in the inside will not take you away from who you have become, But it will certainly shape you into the Women you will need to become over time.And you may discover you are never alone, and there are many women like you who need to rediscover themselves as well.


I hope you understand it not all about everyone, and everything around us, but sometimes it's about who we are and not only determined by what everyone else needs or want from us. Make time for you and do not forget you are a priority! GOD  BLESS MY SISTERS!! You may post your comments and testimonies to help support others!! And Don't for to Join our Page.....

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"RuBy vs.DiAmOnD"

Did you know a Ruby can be worth more than a Diamond?


Today as I begin to think of the True Worth of a Virtuous Women I begin to look over my Scriptures and I was able to notice that even though she was considered a Ruby, but she stood far above other rubies. My thoughts became how did she become a "BETTER RUBY".

I was challenged to speak about her because, as I attempt to deliver a message to the Virtuous Women she must first understand her Worth is not to man but to a RIGHTEOUS GOD, and So "HE IS". When you are a Diamond many will say "She considered a DIAMOND in the rough", This means she was considered the best in the bunch. She have a shine and glitter about herself, that many of the other beautifully cut diamonds just did not present. Although  she may have be skillfully cut as many diamond are, even though her craftsmenship, showed perfection but her clarity was not Radiant! Many men will  choose a Diamond over a Ruby because of the Glitter, But once he gets her home and have played with her he would have wished he chose a Ruby. Because she is skilled in many ways a diamond isn't. For she forever and not only until her glow no longer exist! Have you ever dated a Man and the relationship ended, and you seen him with another women later and once you seen, heard word of mouth about her, all you could say about her is WOW?

                                                                       VS.

When a Virtuous Women is presented to her man and to other that is the affect she carries! Because she is a "RUBY" not a diamond. Get that correct! Though she may not sparkle in the same way as a glittery diamond but when you see her finish it's of  Splendor and Royalty!  Many who spot her knows she is in a class all by herself, and they can always tell her difference because of the Color she radiates, because she is  a blood sacrifice. Her Flair,Charm and style radiates and shine far above all the diamonds and other rubies in any room. Her beauty reflects the Covenant of A Holy Sacrifice with her Creators finish. Her worth always hold a Sentimental Value, which never loses it's Worth! And She the (RUBY) is always placed in the Center of many diamonds and stones.

What makes the Ruby better than a Diamond?

A Ruby holds and possess many different qualities that Diamonds do not possess. She is a smart,trustworthy friend to them who need her. Her relationship with God is not only held on a Sunday but throughout her week she keeps his ways and decrees always present before "her own".  She does not try to out shine another ruby because she allows her God to make her into the finishing stone of his choice. Not many women can say they have surrender themselves totally unto Christ without trying to imitate other diamonds Instead of  allowing CHRIST  to make her a better RUBY himself.

 " Although "Marilyn Monroe", states a "Diamond is a Girl's Best friend",  May be She was never informed that a "RUBY" was the Blood between His own Sacrifice!

For her song,became the means to many women pleasure, the her glow lost it's true essence... Because a RUBY does not hang out in a Rough, For her beauty is Embedded in the Rough. How many diamonds can leave that kind of finish?

The (RUBY) Workmenship which is always placed in the preparation before her entrance must always be sculptured into beauty because she is that one stone that offers that rare quality of "Royalty".

GOD particularly speaks of the Ruby because it's through her workmenship you can presumble her beauty! That is what makes her so special, HIS Workmenship on the "Virtuous Women Daily". As she rise to partake a new day GOD's heavenly presence in her life, His hands,His thoughts are always surrounding her beauty! She is being shaped,crowned and finished with many forms of his wisdom. He teaches her not to settle to be just another ruby but allow your "WORTH" and Standards to shine higher than other plain old rubies. As she allow HIM to cut,shape, and crown her she begin to notice her finish is far more radiant than her friends and sisters because she's been Cut from a different Angle. 

THEY who see her eyes are amazed by her beauty and qualities she possess because her finish shows life long abilities placed on the inside of her. When she is around other rubies, and diamonds she stand out far more, not saying that they don't hold their own glitter, But they can tell she is His Bride of His Royalty.
Many rubies and diamonds tend to hate her flow of radiance wherever she goes. They will make it hard for her because she will out shine them everytime. She lights up any dark and dim room, and many will say she a snob, but her Father have placed her worth far above many other rubies because of the brilliance and work he put into her before presenting her before a crowd.

My Question to YOU, ARe you a RUby or A DiAmond?
Do you have that rare quality that radiance as a RUBY? or  Do you Shine so Bright that while others look at you over and over your radiance loses that DIAMOND Glow?

             "Diamonds may be a Girl's Best Friend, But A Ruby is a Girl's True Love"

Perhaps, Today you will begin to seek GOD like never before, May be you do see yourself as a Diamond, But you have to ask yourself is a Diamond in a Rough good enough?  How do I know which am I? GOOD question, A Diamond will always be Jealous of  The (RUBY) not rubies! So if when you see or spot a (RUBY) and you find your face turning all different types of ways, because  her presence is so radiant, and you can no longer stand it, "You are a "Diamond".  IF You are a "Ruby" You don't mine if a Beautiful Diamond is present because Diamonds radiates from the head (RUBY). For her Beauty is not shown only on the outside but if you look deep the essence of her True Beauty is from within!

That is why from the time she walks in a room or leaves a room she is talked about everytime she radiates throughout the room. For light can never reflect or capture her true beauty that is why She the (RUBY) is So Darn Hard to find!!


I hope you have been aspired, to allow our Creator to continue to shape,make and crown your finish! If you enjoyed this Topic, Join our Group and comment or rate below each Post. I enjoyed this Topic because a Ruby is rare to find in a world with plenty diamonds. God Bless you............

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BaTe Or MaTe?

This is a Call to the Emergency Line...... For Another Virtuous Women.......

   911 to HER rescue,  for another Virtuous Women  who is waiting for her ring..............................

HA,HA,HA........

 Sad as it may appear, day after day many Virtuous Women are being led astray and are in need of God's Rescue...  Why? Because they have been told it's better to wait around for the Ring, thanWait on GOD for A Mate!!

Yes it's true! Many of Our Women are in relationships, with men who have been making all types of promises that have not yet ever came to pass. Year after year, though her girlfriends,family and Co-worker's urge her to move on with her life, and let that Zero go, she continues to pat her foot at the alter.

Every dream of him and her at the alter is merely delayed by false promises and the only one is truly benefiting from the arrangement is HIM. His story is none other than the so called "Provisions" plan he is so call making to ensure them a prosperous future. Wow, How many times have we heard that one without ever seeing the manifestations of the provision! lol......

Is this the kind of man you wish to MARRY? are you willing to get married to a person who can take up to several years to make one Decision? Do you really have to be rich before you marry?

If you are in this category of Women, You need to tell him the "Waiting game is OVER"!!
I have so many friends who have allowed themselves to settle for men in which they had
nothing to offer them but passion. And even though passion feels good,But it doesn't pay the bills,and will never fully satisfy a relationship! It's only meant to last for a moment... After the moment it ends, you are back to where you begin!

It only leads you back without a ring! Huh.....

Does this sounds like anyone you know?

Many women can relate because SHE has been in this position by far too many times! Infact, Many Women have begin to believe the many stories about the MARTIMONY BED before SHE Weds! She have come to a notation that she better know what she's getting before she signs on the dotted line. Not so Funny huh, but after she takes the bate she still ends up without a mate!

Too many women are falling for the bate, They are allowing themselves to be bated in by their men and all his string of promises! Everytime she finally gets enough of air to resuscitate he bates her back in all over again. Funny thing what keeps her waiting is the Hope he'll finally give in an Marry her someday.

 Now, I will not say she'll never get her Ring, But I will say this She may have to wait a number of years, before she get the ring she may have could have been wearing by then. Even if  it wasn't the man she extended it to be from. There are times when a Women must began to count the cost of her Sin. She cannot allow a man to bring her life to a tragic end.

There Is A Big chances by the time you receive the ring, it's not worth, what you will receive in the end. You may do better to walk away and Wait on The LORD to send you who your heart has longed for.

Though I cannot offer solid advice,because each scenario may be different, but it's clear if you are in the waiting game, you better be clear to what you are getting for the bate Many women have come to the very end of a totally dysfunctional relationship and have learn that they do not even LOVE the man and will still marry him and risk a chance at True Love.

Then when Her marriage becomes impossible to be in, she uses her problems and pains against, the very people in the beginning who advise her to wait. Does this sound like anyone you know?

I don't want to throw the HAY at anyone, but it's clear that many Virtuous Women are being played like never before, some are very Bless to escape some of the pitfalls which was trying to overtake them, but there are still numerous of them that are being destroyed daily.

What is a Solution?

Virtuous Women, are under the attack of the enemy, she must learn which territory is her own.  If you are for GOD be for GOD, If you are for the World than be for the World. You cannot afford to stand in the middle. If she continues to leave her position without  GOD's Protection she will be slaugther by the attack.  If you are looking for Love, Look no further, GOD's Love supercedes a relationship which is built with false promises!

Learn how to get to know who YOU are, that is where it begins! Take the necessary steps to built a relationship with YOU. Learn what it is that will make you satisfied with you! I believe the best way to begin to be in a relationship with yourself, is by being in a Relationship with Christ!  He will begin to show you the real person inside of you and not only the shell your soul lives in. He will also reveal and heal your past hurts and pain, and give your life new meaning again!

Read your Word, for it teaches us how we must conduct our ways,thoughts and position. It's shows key applications to what will happen and what will not happen if we do not abide in his word. Each Story is a dialogue to strengthen your faith for each challenge. Although it may not be so easily to understand in the beginning but as you use the reference and text it shall continue to encourage and strengthen your faith for Spiritual Maturity and Growth.

Words to Women........

Women can have what they say, they can have a house,car,fine jewelry,beautiful clothes, spa day's, getaways, retreats, and for some they can have Men and Children before they wed, but what's most important is that they understand the responsiblities which lye ahead of their choices. Make decisions which are not only a quick fix to a temporary problem, but is the answer to a long lasting future.

                         It's Your Choice to take the Bate or Wait....................................................

I hope this encourage Women to look within themselves before making a lifelong decision....If you enjoyed what you've read come and join us as we discuss many different topics and feel free to post your comments!


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