ArE yOu ReAdY tO BeCome A wIFe?

Are you ready to become A Wife?

 Does the Vision of Marriage have you in bondage with the reality of Who you shall be............

To many women want the fairytale but do not have a clue to what is required within a marriage. If you are seeking God for your mate please be clear there are many things you should already possess before entering into a matrimony relationship. I have witnessed many women who are more in a race down the aisle not for the gift of being in love, but only so she can have the benefits which come with being a wife. 

 The First Key to a Healthy Marriage is Love, it's where it all began and Love is what shall keep you connected! Second is Faith, in yourself and your mate, Third Respect to Love each other inspite of your flaws, Fourth Equally Yoked to one another by same interest and desires for your future. If you have the basic fundamental of what it takes to become a Virtuous Wife, You Shall be headed for a Successful Marriage. But what can become a Deal breaker may be Religious Views. If you are walking with God before he comes along, it's vital that he doesn't hinder you but become apart of the plan GOD's already planned for you! Understand Women tend to change their views,focus and achievements over time.

Women between the Age of  (25-35) all believe that Love is all they need. She believes foolishly that once she take on his name she will never have to worry about anything, Her desire is to please him, and become the Mother of his children. She also knows she doesn't have much to offer back, so she may choose to place her plans on hold to help him become the main bread winner. And she may decide to end all her past friendships because her image of marriage is based around being his biggest supporter and anyone who could get in the way with her plan is now their enemy. 

Women between the Age of (36-44) are caught up with trying to become a mother and her focus of marriage is based on creating a family. Her Love for him is good but now that she's feeling like her biological clock has been ticking she is more selfish and have the thoughts of becoming a mother at the top of her agenda. Her husband has become her human punching bag, She will fault him easily for everything, from losing the toothpaste cap, failing to pull the toilet seat down, from eating all her snacks up etc... She is just bothered by his existence, and have placed total blame on him why her life isn't perfect.

Women between the Age of (45-55) is content with herself, and having a companion,to travel,talk and make love too. Now that her children are adult age, her life is based around what she wants for herself. Her plans are to encourage her children but know surround herself around new things! She has become each one of their children personal reminder of how her husband and her place certain values in them. Her husband is no longer the LOVE of her life he is her life. They are able to rekindle a love who have suffered many changes and may have withered many storms together. She is more at peace with him and where their marriage is headed.

Women between the Age of (56-Up) are ready for her legacy and teachings to be placed in the hearts of her grandchildren. She is busy trying to encourage her children who are not married yet to find wives, and has her eyes on watch for descent son-in-laws. Her time is measured around being a wife, hobbies and recreations. If she is a healthy women, her husband along with herself are trying to treasure there moments.. They are about spending quality time walking,talking thinking about their past and what the future holds for the both of them.

Marriage is what you make it to be! You can start your marriage off by first asking all the right questions, by securing the both of your life plans. If you select someone for wealth and prestige you may find that his money may secure your future but will not be the key tool in keeping the marriage from suffering human fralities. Selecting "LOVE" is a great way to begin, but know Love alone doesn't pay your bills, be careful that he can meet your needs as well. Many women are suffering from the lack of Sex and so they marry for pleasure and forget that outside of the Matrimony bed, you must live with all his corky ways and flaws. It's better to find more in common than less. For Marriage was intended to become a union and not be abused by personal addictive behaviors.

If you are ready and willing to now become a Virtuous Wife, Make sure you line your thoughts and plans up with God's because he knows,holds and shall become the both of you all future. Congratulations, to our Virtuous Sisters!

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Everybody Plays the Fool......

So You was played as a Fool..........

 Hello Sisters, I don't know why but My Thoughts have been drawn to many back in the day songs!
This Man from "Main Ingredient" Leaves us a Very valuable message to Live by!  He show us how
"EVERYBODY PLAYS THE FOOL"  boy did he ever know how truth this one statement made
throughout generations to generations.

He reminds us how many people are hurt today, because someone chose to make them a fool. MAYBE you was someone's fool. Truly We all know how it feels, and how NOBODY want to be played as a fool. But believe it or not, Everyone shall be someone else's fool. There is "NO EXCEPTIONS to the rule.

WHAT rule is that? It's "LOVE".  Many have said, Love me soft and Love me gentle but please don't play me as a fool....

HOW many times have your HEART been Broken?  1,,,2,,,,3,,,   and so on...........

Don't try and make yourself look like it's never happened to you, if not it can and most cases it will, but his statement is true;  "There is no promise, that the one you LOVE is going to LOVE YOU!!

           So no matter how many roses you buy, how many meals you eat together, no matter
           how many times you kiss, they may not be in LOVE WiTH YOU.

But let's get his full message, He begins to tell the story off by encouraging a friend  he knew who was hurting from a painful break up and they didn't want to face the fact....that the one they didn't love them.... because TRUE Love hurts! He encourages them how "EVERYBODY PLAYS THE FOOL,SOMETIMES.......

For LOVE has no grants! And when your heart is broken No doctor can write you a prescription for
a Broken heart...  All you can do is sit around and think...

What I have learn that we can only feel the emotions of the heart when "YOU ARE IN LOVE"
and when your heart is Broken....

When your not in love you may like someone, but you don't invest everything into them because you like them instead of LOVE them.

        For many will try and hurt you because they don't understand the magnitude of
                                                                     LOVE.............

It's Valentine's Day, and Many Couples will plan their day to spend with the one whom they love.  They will offer Gifts, Surprises,Candlelight Dinners, Breakfast in Bed, and Some will go all the way out and shut down restaurants for that special someone.  Keep in mind they do it all because of this one word  called "LOVE".

Stores around the USA will make BIG BUCK off an Emotion and many will dig deep to feed it's
intent. But what is the lesson to be learned "LOVE is not brought, or Stolen  But it's Given Freely
to the one's who are in LOVE....

But, For those who are hurting and are in great pain, who have ran into someone who cared little
about the pain they caused you, to those who planned for this day and was dumped weeks
days, or moments before it came, for those who is still holding onto grudges, and have plot to
get even with the one you love, for those who feel like life isn't worth living. Remember his
Words, " EVERYBODY PLAYS THE FOOL" sometimes..." NO EXCEPTIONS TO THE RULES"

                                     Biggest Key: "USE YOUR HEART LIKE A TOOL"

This means you must be careful who you share your LOVE with! Many will say how can I do this?  "Guard your Heart"  Many people meet on Monday and fall in Love
on Tuesday.  Love is Beautiful, yes, I will say that, But love can be harmful if you don't use
it in the right way! 

Below is a list of ways to Guard your heart..................
PRAY TO GOD TO REVEAL THIS PERSON TO YOU, INSIDE OUT...........Then obey what he tells you....
1. never do for someone what they would not do for you.
2. take your time, don't rush Love. It will find you...
3. start off slow and easy, learn all you need to know first.
4. make them take you on dates to outdoor places see if they will treat you special.
5. if you supsect anything that is not pleasing in your eyesight. call it quits early on!


There is no formula for the heart, Infact we in most cases can't really choose who we will love
but we can learn to guard our heart.  For everyone who says they Love you, tell them to show you and see how fast they may disappear.

Love is forever changing, Our World doesn't value True Love anymore, for they Love themselves more than others. Why because it hurts! Nobody wants to be a fool......

If you are single and want LOVE learn how to Love yourself first and True Love will find you...
Look around you there are always signs of Love, it doesn't always have to be found in someone
Special.
May everyone be Blessed by all the Love In the Air.......

I hope you are inspired to wait on true love, because it will come looking for you....
Happy Valentine's Day......

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