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There is (9) Principles you need to know to survive Dating/Courtship!

Women are notorious for dating less than equal to who they are, and when they try and do things in their own way as being human we all have found that we can do more harm in some cases than good really by  trying to incorporate our own techniques which in very early stages of courtship can crumble the finish of a perfectly great connection.

Most women operate in a lot of fear that the man they are dating or Courting is going to hurt them, instead of helping them to become the Women who God intended for them to be. So they wear a Iron Guard, which I agree you cannot give yourself over fully to a person to soon. But it is a part before marriage where you can physically communicate and go out publicly before any hanky panky and just spend time together with out making it so personal by fun. This is the best part the getting "to know you" process.

This Blog is to help Women who are Clueless to Courtship! This means you do not know what is Good or what is Bad for you! If you are frustrated and without answers on how to date a man in a world that doesn't value purity stay tune you may be reminded why you should use all of the principles to determine if you are courting or dating the right person.

A Virtuous Women have already pondered many ideals and thoughts of her one true love, but just because you may know what you want you must begin to operate smarter and stop settling for what you can get. And stop making excuses for yourself. It's very personal when deciding to spend the rest of your life with some you will have to trust with everything!

Some of  you may be Seasoned, but it doesn't mean you know everything there is to dating! If you have a Good Man, continue to be the voice which stems hope in other Virtuous women because many have begin to believe they may not ever meet their one true love and have fallen away from the promise.

  " Courtship"  this mean it's the time before engagement and marriage. This time is set aside for a Man and a Woman to get to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement. Courtship is the traditional name for "Dating". Now, for many who are paying attention and is not marry but is dating someone, this is all your relationship is "Dating". Even though you are serious, and have taken it to another level this is where you are, and trust me if you don't think so try and ask your partner what are you two, and he will say, dating, or nowdays your in a committed relationship!

          Listen Up! There is No such thing as a Committed Relationship, when there is No Agreement!!!

You are Marry or Dating and everything in between is just away to make one feel secure. So enough of

that because many women are having a hard time with this, and many are not sure how "Courtship" works and when to draw the line while getting to know someone.

There is NINE Principles you should want to see before taking your relationship to the alter.

1. C:  (Christ) Make sure he has Christ in his Life and it's visible and if it's a requirement for him to be with a daughter of Christ. If he will date a women without stability in who she serve he may not be as ready as he say so. A man who is confident in his Savior will want to date a person who feel the same way.

2. O:   (Obedience) is key, If you are dating or courting someone who you like, but you do not see Christ in him let him go! Not next week a month later do it  Asap. You cannot afford to allow the friendship to blossom and then secretly tricking yourself to seeing something which was never there in the beginning.

3. U:   (Union) a union is very important! you both have to feel connected at the sametime. So many relationship or marriage suffers because both parties didn't want the same thing at the same time. Timing is everything with God and if a person doesn't share the same interest why are you pressing forward for marriage. For marriage is built on a union with one another.

4. R:   (Relationship) If you and him have been dating for over a year and he has not asked for a relationship something is not clicking with you and him. With Christ, he want to be in a relationship, for he do not date us on and on and on, He get us to a place where we can finally place our trust in him. If you are just dating someone when do you finally have a chance to take what you have learned and put it to great practice. No one should be led on, either you are the right one or not.

5. T:  (Truthfulness)  If you are dating a person who believes in lying he will lie to you! I rather have someone who can tell me the truth even if it hurts my feels than one who will lie because aleast I can make a clear decision in continuing or ending our courtship! If you are dating a person who can't tell the truth you are only setting yourself up for many disappointment in the future.

6. S:  (Sacrifice)  What will two people sacrifice to be in love?  If you are dating or courting one another their must come a time that both people must be willing to sacrifice his time,energy and spirit to one person. you do not need a person who cannot be faithful to you and only you! If he is the right person he will want to make your relationship serious and move the title up to Marriage because you are his future.

7. H:  (Holy)  When you are with the right person, He will want you to remain holy and untouched from others and only by him shall you feel his touch. But mainly you should be Holy before the Lord so that he can be in your presence. For if you are living right before him, He can direct your hearts in the way you should go. God is a Holy God, and He doesn't defile your temple, for he grants life to the dead, and rebuilds the hearts and cleanses the soul from all sin. A Godly man will not want to defile your temple.

8. I:  (Intimacy)  God created intimacy, for he knew that two people who are trying to build a strong union must develop a time where both can share with one another. Intimacy is not only a physical exchange, it's a time for silence and a time to bond and come more connected because you are now as one with one another. Make sure you are not allowing intimacy to control a courtship before it's timing!

9. P:  (Patience) Patience is a Virtue! It's very important that we allow Time to mend all and to reveal all. Many women are so busy trying to lack that husband instead of standing back to see if he meets her needs. Can he care for your children without you having to pressure him, does he want children with you, can he cook, clean,work a job and pay rent or a mortage. Is he a God fearing man who enjoys church as much as you do. Can he save his paycheck to show you he will not spend your inheritance or he will not ponder through money because he lack self control. You need to see the person for who they are then who you wish for them to be.

 

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If  you allow Patience to have her good work while dating or courtship you in the end will not lack anything! For some will find just what they was looking for, and for other they will be set  free again to find what they have longed for. It's a process, we learn who we are and get to see if the person we are currenting dating or courting can measure up to what we want them to be. You do not have to walk away being all broken if you do not give too much of yourself to soon. If a person cannot wait and allow the process to be the establishing link you may want to let them past by you, because Marriage is not a union which should be entered into lightly! May all who read this Blog begin to enjoy a Wonderful Courtship before Marriage when the time is right and remember this is where you shall spot your one true love in Courtship! 

I hope you enjoyed my Blog, and I welcome your comments and post, Truly your words are making a difference. I hope to hear from you soon. Have a Beautiful Day!!

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BaTe Or MaTe?

This is a Call to the Emergency Line...... For Another Virtuous Women.......

   911 to HER rescue,  for another Virtuous Women  who is waiting for her ring..............................

HA,HA,HA........

 Sad as it may appear, day after day many Virtuous Women are being led astray and are in need of God's Rescue...  Why? Because they have been told it's better to wait around for the Ring, thanWait on GOD for A Mate!!

Yes it's true! Many of Our Women are in relationships, with men who have been making all types of promises that have not yet ever came to pass. Year after year, though her girlfriends,family and Co-worker's urge her to move on with her life, and let that Zero go, she continues to pat her foot at the alter.

Every dream of him and her at the alter is merely delayed by false promises and the only one is truly benefiting from the arrangement is HIM. His story is none other than the so called "Provisions" plan he is so call making to ensure them a prosperous future. Wow, How many times have we heard that one without ever seeing the manifestations of the provision! lol......

Is this the kind of man you wish to MARRY? are you willing to get married to a person who can take up to several years to make one Decision? Do you really have to be rich before you marry?

If you are in this category of Women, You need to tell him the "Waiting game is OVER"!!
I have so many friends who have allowed themselves to settle for men in which they had
nothing to offer them but passion. And even though passion feels good,But it doesn't pay the bills,and will never fully satisfy a relationship! It's only meant to last for a moment... After the moment it ends, you are back to where you begin!

It only leads you back without a ring! Huh.....

Does this sounds like anyone you know?

Many women can relate because SHE has been in this position by far too many times! Infact, Many Women have begin to believe the many stories about the MARTIMONY BED before SHE Weds! She have come to a notation that she better know what she's getting before she signs on the dotted line. Not so Funny huh, but after she takes the bate she still ends up without a mate!

Too many women are falling for the bate, They are allowing themselves to be bated in by their men and all his string of promises! Everytime she finally gets enough of air to resuscitate he bates her back in all over again. Funny thing what keeps her waiting is the Hope he'll finally give in an Marry her someday.

 Now, I will not say she'll never get her Ring, But I will say this She may have to wait a number of years, before she get the ring she may have could have been wearing by then. Even if  it wasn't the man she extended it to be from. There are times when a Women must began to count the cost of her Sin. She cannot allow a man to bring her life to a tragic end.

There Is A Big chances by the time you receive the ring, it's not worth, what you will receive in the end. You may do better to walk away and Wait on The LORD to send you who your heart has longed for.

Though I cannot offer solid advice,because each scenario may be different, but it's clear if you are in the waiting game, you better be clear to what you are getting for the bate Many women have come to the very end of a totally dysfunctional relationship and have learn that they do not even LOVE the man and will still marry him and risk a chance at True Love.

Then when Her marriage becomes impossible to be in, she uses her problems and pains against, the very people in the beginning who advise her to wait. Does this sound like anyone you know?

I don't want to throw the HAY at anyone, but it's clear that many Virtuous Women are being played like never before, some are very Bless to escape some of the pitfalls which was trying to overtake them, but there are still numerous of them that are being destroyed daily.

What is a Solution?

Virtuous Women, are under the attack of the enemy, she must learn which territory is her own.  If you are for GOD be for GOD, If you are for the World than be for the World. You cannot afford to stand in the middle. If she continues to leave her position without  GOD's Protection she will be slaugther by the attack.  If you are looking for Love, Look no further, GOD's Love supercedes a relationship which is built with false promises!

Learn how to get to know who YOU are, that is where it begins! Take the necessary steps to built a relationship with YOU. Learn what it is that will make you satisfied with you! I believe the best way to begin to be in a relationship with yourself, is by being in a Relationship with Christ!  He will begin to show you the real person inside of you and not only the shell your soul lives in. He will also reveal and heal your past hurts and pain, and give your life new meaning again!

Read your Word, for it teaches us how we must conduct our ways,thoughts and position. It's shows key applications to what will happen and what will not happen if we do not abide in his word. Each Story is a dialogue to strengthen your faith for each challenge. Although it may not be so easily to understand in the beginning but as you use the reference and text it shall continue to encourage and strengthen your faith for Spiritual Maturity and Growth.

Words to Women........

Women can have what they say, they can have a house,car,fine jewelry,beautiful clothes, spa day's, getaways, retreats, and for some they can have Men and Children before they wed, but what's most important is that they understand the responsiblities which lye ahead of their choices. Make decisions which are not only a quick fix to a temporary problem, but is the answer to a long lasting future.

                         It's Your Choice to take the Bate or Wait....................................................

I hope this encourage Women to look within themselves before making a lifelong decision....If you enjoyed what you've read come and join us as we discuss many different topics and feel free to post your comments!


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Everybody Plays the Fool......

So You was played as a Fool..........

 Hello Sisters, I don't know why but My Thoughts have been drawn to many back in the day songs!
This Man from "Main Ingredient" Leaves us a Very valuable message to Live by!  He show us how
"EVERYBODY PLAYS THE FOOL"  boy did he ever know how truth this one statement made
throughout generations to generations.

He reminds us how many people are hurt today, because someone chose to make them a fool. MAYBE you was someone's fool. Truly We all know how it feels, and how NOBODY want to be played as a fool. But believe it or not, Everyone shall be someone else's fool. There is "NO EXCEPTIONS to the rule.

WHAT rule is that? It's "LOVE".  Many have said, Love me soft and Love me gentle but please don't play me as a fool....

HOW many times have your HEART been Broken?  1,,,2,,,,3,,,   and so on...........

Don't try and make yourself look like it's never happened to you, if not it can and most cases it will, but his statement is true;  "There is no promise, that the one you LOVE is going to LOVE YOU!!

           So no matter how many roses you buy, how many meals you eat together, no matter
           how many times you kiss, they may not be in LOVE WiTH YOU.

But let's get his full message, He begins to tell the story off by encouraging a friend  he knew who was hurting from a painful break up and they didn't want to face the fact....that the one they didn't love them.... because TRUE Love hurts! He encourages them how "EVERYBODY PLAYS THE FOOL,SOMETIMES.......

For LOVE has no grants! And when your heart is broken No doctor can write you a prescription for
a Broken heart...  All you can do is sit around and think...

What I have learn that we can only feel the emotions of the heart when "YOU ARE IN LOVE"
and when your heart is Broken....

When your not in love you may like someone, but you don't invest everything into them because you like them instead of LOVE them.

        For many will try and hurt you because they don't understand the magnitude of
                                                                     LOVE.............

It's Valentine's Day, and Many Couples will plan their day to spend with the one whom they love.  They will offer Gifts, Surprises,Candlelight Dinners, Breakfast in Bed, and Some will go all the way out and shut down restaurants for that special someone.  Keep in mind they do it all because of this one word  called "LOVE".

Stores around the USA will make BIG BUCK off an Emotion and many will dig deep to feed it's
intent. But what is the lesson to be learned "LOVE is not brought, or Stolen  But it's Given Freely
to the one's who are in LOVE....

But, For those who are hurting and are in great pain, who have ran into someone who cared little
about the pain they caused you, to those who planned for this day and was dumped weeks
days, or moments before it came, for those who is still holding onto grudges, and have plot to
get even with the one you love, for those who feel like life isn't worth living. Remember his
Words, " EVERYBODY PLAYS THE FOOL" sometimes..." NO EXCEPTIONS TO THE RULES"

                                     Biggest Key: "USE YOUR HEART LIKE A TOOL"

This means you must be careful who you share your LOVE with! Many will say how can I do this?  "Guard your Heart"  Many people meet on Monday and fall in Love
on Tuesday.  Love is Beautiful, yes, I will say that, But love can be harmful if you don't use
it in the right way! 

Below is a list of ways to Guard your heart..................
PRAY TO GOD TO REVEAL THIS PERSON TO YOU, INSIDE OUT...........Then obey what he tells you....
1. never do for someone what they would not do for you.
2. take your time, don't rush Love. It will find you...
3. start off slow and easy, learn all you need to know first.
4. make them take you on dates to outdoor places see if they will treat you special.
5. if you supsect anything that is not pleasing in your eyesight. call it quits early on!


There is no formula for the heart, Infact we in most cases can't really choose who we will love
but we can learn to guard our heart.  For everyone who says they Love you, tell them to show you and see how fast they may disappear.

Love is forever changing, Our World doesn't value True Love anymore, for they Love themselves more than others. Why because it hurts! Nobody wants to be a fool......

If you are single and want LOVE learn how to Love yourself first and True Love will find you...
Look around you there are always signs of Love, it doesn't always have to be found in someone
Special.
May everyone be Blessed by all the Love In the Air.......

I hope you are inspired to wait on true love, because it will come looking for you....
Happy Valentine's Day......

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