"ThE eXprEsSiOn Of LoVe"

Hello Everyone,

Today I want to share a message which shows the first of many expressions of LOVE. Though this is the First expression which always leads to intimacy it's speaks loud when mouths are silenced but it carries great power and substance inside this gesture of Love between a men and a woman. It is the expression of "Holding Hands". 

Did you know when you hold hands with someone, it's a very intimate message you send to each person as well to others who watch you displaying your affections towards one another?

Today, I am reminded in so many ways Love can be expressed!  Many times we look to hear a person state verbally "How much they Love You" instead of allowing True Love to be found in it's expression or gesture. But Love has many different expressions and if they are recognized you can sense a meaning within each expression.

Love is a very deep subject, and for most people if they've been hurt it's a topic many care to talk about because their concept is now "True Love" doesn't really exist aleast from their perception. Their ideal of what Love is only is based on how that person made them feel when they exchanged heat, or when that person Kissed them for the very first time and so on. But it's very interesting you rarely hear people bragging about their first time holding hands with one another and how much intimate they became with this expression.

Does this expression of Love shows great or equal benefits as well as being told you are loved or being Kiss?

If you are lost, we are talking about the expression of Love by Holding Hands! Now if you are somewhat a hopeless romantic you may see It does! But it's contents are highly overlooked. Now, for me when a MAN holds my hands I sense a ownership,really liking me,intimacy,mutal bond connection. If I be truly honest I never hold hands just because! It's normally with someone I may feel I am interested enough into before sharing this expression with. 

I know it's crazy but it's that one expression of Love people rarely talk about because it's a silent expression which  carries a Great Weigh before two people usually enter down the journey of Love! Infact when I see two people holding hands it reminds me of Love and how they must be In Love! It's a very silent but at the sametime loud gesture of Love. And it shows the direction in which the person's are acknowledging for one another such as the territorial strength of their relationship and is openly display to let others know they have reached a mutal bond with one another.  If a man feels comfortable with a woman and he choose to hold her hand, he is making a geniune statement of Love and sincerity towards her and she as well toward him.  For I am forced to look back over the hands of Love I've shared with men, but I must be honest the one's who we shared the strongest love was the one's I held more the hands of.

                                               Can you remember Love?

Now, when you Hold the hands of and potential Love interest it's an expression of Trust. It allows both parties to recognize they are walking in the same direction and they share a mutal bond and connection. When you hold your mate hands you immediate exchange ideals, and open the door for more ways to show your expression of Love to one another.

If you are with a person and they never hold your hand what does this mean?

It only tells that true intimacy is being ignored or may not be a option at that moment. And if that person pulls away everytime you try and hold their hands this states they are not physically attracted to you enough to recognize or even consider this expression of Love. Perhaps, this is their way of drawing a fork in the road to imply what the nature of your friendship is!

If a person have a sound interest in you they would never be ashame to hold your hand. Actually if they have feelings for you they will want that closeness. If it's your first time holding hands, it's possible the other person is trying to get you to know they want more intimacy with you!

Even though it's the most least of the expression it holds much power. It is the one expression which opens the door to all the other expression of Love. Love is personal and when a man holds a women hand whether publicly or privately he is choosing to open his door of affections up to her. He has realized that she is somone he believes he can trust with the truth and with his heart. We must stop waiting to only hear the Expressions of Love but recognize what we see in people who makes those expressions toward us!

If you've ever wondered why people hold hands, because they are physically attracted to one another. Both people are comfortable with the thought of being each others, and they have consciously decided that they will no longer try to direct the Journey of Love by the Expression of Love and by holding hands!

I hope you who read my blogs understand Love is the greatest gifts of them all, without Love you can never move forward and you can never experience True Intimacy if you do not reach a common goal for the many different expressions of LOVE.......... I hope you enjoy the The "Expression of Love".

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So YoU ThINk YoUr ReAdY fOr DaTinG?

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Does  C--O--U--R--T--S--H--I--P  exist anymore?

There is (9) Principles you need to know to survive Dating/Courtship!

Women are notorious for dating less than equal to who they are, and when they try and do things in their own way as being human we all have found that we can do more harm in some cases than good really by  trying to incorporate our own techniques which in very early stages of courtship can crumble the finish of a perfectly great connection.

Most women operate in a lot of fear that the man they are dating or Courting is going to hurt them, instead of helping them to become the Women who God intended for them to be. So they wear a Iron Guard, which I agree you cannot give yourself over fully to a person to soon. But it is a part before marriage where you can physically communicate and go out publicly before any hanky panky and just spend time together with out making it so personal by fun. This is the best part the getting "to know you" process.

This Blog is to help Women who are Clueless to Courtship! This means you do not know what is Good or what is Bad for you! If you are frustrated and without answers on how to date a man in a world that doesn't value purity stay tune you may be reminded why you should use all of the principles to determine if you are courting or dating the right person.

A Virtuous Women have already pondered many ideals and thoughts of her one true love, but just because you may know what you want you must begin to operate smarter and stop settling for what you can get. And stop making excuses for yourself. It's very personal when deciding to spend the rest of your life with some you will have to trust with everything!

Some of  you may be Seasoned, but it doesn't mean you know everything there is to dating! If you have a Good Man, continue to be the voice which stems hope in other Virtuous women because many have begin to believe they may not ever meet their one true love and have fallen away from the promise.

  " Courtship"  this mean it's the time before engagement and marriage. This time is set aside for a Man and a Woman to get to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement. Courtship is the traditional name for "Dating". Now, for many who are paying attention and is not marry but is dating someone, this is all your relationship is "Dating". Even though you are serious, and have taken it to another level this is where you are, and trust me if you don't think so try and ask your partner what are you two, and he will say, dating, or nowdays your in a committed relationship!

          Listen Up! There is No such thing as a Committed Relationship, when there is No Agreement!!!

You are Marry or Dating and everything in between is just away to make one feel secure. So enough of

that because many women are having a hard time with this, and many are not sure how "Courtship" works and when to draw the line while getting to know someone.

There is NINE Principles you should want to see before taking your relationship to the alter.

1. C:  (Christ) Make sure he has Christ in his Life and it's visible and if it's a requirement for him to be with a daughter of Christ. If he will date a women without stability in who she serve he may not be as ready as he say so. A man who is confident in his Savior will want to date a person who feel the same way.

2. O:   (Obedience) is key, If you are dating or courting someone who you like, but you do not see Christ in him let him go! Not next week a month later do it  Asap. You cannot afford to allow the friendship to blossom and then secretly tricking yourself to seeing something which was never there in the beginning.

3. U:   (Union) a union is very important! you both have to feel connected at the sametime. So many relationship or marriage suffers because both parties didn't want the same thing at the same time. Timing is everything with God and if a person doesn't share the same interest why are you pressing forward for marriage. For marriage is built on a union with one another.

4. R:   (Relationship) If you and him have been dating for over a year and he has not asked for a relationship something is not clicking with you and him. With Christ, he want to be in a relationship, for he do not date us on and on and on, He get us to a place where we can finally place our trust in him. If you are just dating someone when do you finally have a chance to take what you have learned and put it to great practice. No one should be led on, either you are the right one or not.

5. T:  (Truthfulness)  If you are dating a person who believes in lying he will lie to you! I rather have someone who can tell me the truth even if it hurts my feels than one who will lie because aleast I can make a clear decision in continuing or ending our courtship! If you are dating a person who can't tell the truth you are only setting yourself up for many disappointment in the future.

6. S:  (Sacrifice)  What will two people sacrifice to be in love?  If you are dating or courting one another their must come a time that both people must be willing to sacrifice his time,energy and spirit to one person. you do not need a person who cannot be faithful to you and only you! If he is the right person he will want to make your relationship serious and move the title up to Marriage because you are his future.

7. H:  (Holy)  When you are with the right person, He will want you to remain holy and untouched from others and only by him shall you feel his touch. But mainly you should be Holy before the Lord so that he can be in your presence. For if you are living right before him, He can direct your hearts in the way you should go. God is a Holy God, and He doesn't defile your temple, for he grants life to the dead, and rebuilds the hearts and cleanses the soul from all sin. A Godly man will not want to defile your temple.

8. I:  (Intimacy)  God created intimacy, for he knew that two people who are trying to build a strong union must develop a time where both can share with one another. Intimacy is not only a physical exchange, it's a time for silence and a time to bond and come more connected because you are now as one with one another. Make sure you are not allowing intimacy to control a courtship before it's timing!

9. P:  (Patience) Patience is a Virtue! It's very important that we allow Time to mend all and to reveal all. Many women are so busy trying to lack that husband instead of standing back to see if he meets her needs. Can he care for your children without you having to pressure him, does he want children with you, can he cook, clean,work a job and pay rent or a mortage. Is he a God fearing man who enjoys church as much as you do. Can he save his paycheck to show you he will not spend your inheritance or he will not ponder through money because he lack self control. You need to see the person for who they are then who you wish for them to be.

 

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If  you allow Patience to have her good work while dating or courtship you in the end will not lack anything! For some will find just what they was looking for, and for other they will be set  free again to find what they have longed for. It's a process, we learn who we are and get to see if the person we are currenting dating or courting can measure up to what we want them to be. You do not have to walk away being all broken if you do not give too much of yourself to soon. If a person cannot wait and allow the process to be the establishing link you may want to let them past by you, because Marriage is not a union which should be entered into lightly! May all who read this Blog begin to enjoy a Wonderful Courtship before Marriage when the time is right and remember this is where you shall spot your one true love in Courtship! 

I hope you enjoyed my Blog, and I welcome your comments and post, Truly your words are making a difference. I hope to hear from you soon. Have a Beautiful Day!!

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ArE yOu ReAdY tO BeCome A wIFe?

Are you ready to become A Wife?

 Does the Vision of Marriage have you in bondage with the reality of Who you shall be............

To many women want the fairytale but do not have a clue to what is required within a marriage. If you are seeking God for your mate please be clear there are many things you should already possess before entering into a matrimony relationship. I have witnessed many women who are more in a race down the aisle not for the gift of being in love, but only so she can have the benefits which come with being a wife. 

 The First Key to a Healthy Marriage is Love, it's where it all began and Love is what shall keep you connected! Second is Faith, in yourself and your mate, Third Respect to Love each other inspite of your flaws, Fourth Equally Yoked to one another by same interest and desires for your future. If you have the basic fundamental of what it takes to become a Virtuous Wife, You Shall be headed for a Successful Marriage. But what can become a Deal breaker may be Religious Views. If you are walking with God before he comes along, it's vital that he doesn't hinder you but become apart of the plan GOD's already planned for you! Understand Women tend to change their views,focus and achievements over time.

Women between the Age of  (25-35) all believe that Love is all they need. She believes foolishly that once she take on his name she will never have to worry about anything, Her desire is to please him, and become the Mother of his children. She also knows she doesn't have much to offer back, so she may choose to place her plans on hold to help him become the main bread winner. And she may decide to end all her past friendships because her image of marriage is based around being his biggest supporter and anyone who could get in the way with her plan is now their enemy. 

Women between the Age of (36-44) are caught up with trying to become a mother and her focus of marriage is based on creating a family. Her Love for him is good but now that she's feeling like her biological clock has been ticking she is more selfish and have the thoughts of becoming a mother at the top of her agenda. Her husband has become her human punching bag, She will fault him easily for everything, from losing the toothpaste cap, failing to pull the toilet seat down, from eating all her snacks up etc... She is just bothered by his existence, and have placed total blame on him why her life isn't perfect.

Women between the Age of (45-55) is content with herself, and having a companion,to travel,talk and make love too. Now that her children are adult age, her life is based around what she wants for herself. Her plans are to encourage her children but know surround herself around new things! She has become each one of their children personal reminder of how her husband and her place certain values in them. Her husband is no longer the LOVE of her life he is her life. They are able to rekindle a love who have suffered many changes and may have withered many storms together. She is more at peace with him and where their marriage is headed.

Women between the Age of (56-Up) are ready for her legacy and teachings to be placed in the hearts of her grandchildren. She is busy trying to encourage her children who are not married yet to find wives, and has her eyes on watch for descent son-in-laws. Her time is measured around being a wife, hobbies and recreations. If she is a healthy women, her husband along with herself are trying to treasure there moments.. They are about spending quality time walking,talking thinking about their past and what the future holds for the both of them.

Marriage is what you make it to be! You can start your marriage off by first asking all the right questions, by securing the both of your life plans. If you select someone for wealth and prestige you may find that his money may secure your future but will not be the key tool in keeping the marriage from suffering human fralities. Selecting "LOVE" is a great way to begin, but know Love alone doesn't pay your bills, be careful that he can meet your needs as well. Many women are suffering from the lack of Sex and so they marry for pleasure and forget that outside of the Matrimony bed, you must live with all his corky ways and flaws. It's better to find more in common than less. For Marriage was intended to become a union and not be abused by personal addictive behaviors.

If you are ready and willing to now become a Virtuous Wife, Make sure you line your thoughts and plans up with God's because he knows,holds and shall become the both of you all future. Congratulations, to our Virtuous Sisters!

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BaTe Or MaTe?

This is a Call to the Emergency Line...... For Another Virtuous Women.......

   911 to HER rescue,  for another Virtuous Women  who is waiting for her ring..............................

HA,HA,HA........

 Sad as it may appear, day after day many Virtuous Women are being led astray and are in need of God's Rescue...  Why? Because they have been told it's better to wait around for the Ring, thanWait on GOD for A Mate!!

Yes it's true! Many of Our Women are in relationships, with men who have been making all types of promises that have not yet ever came to pass. Year after year, though her girlfriends,family and Co-worker's urge her to move on with her life, and let that Zero go, she continues to pat her foot at the alter.

Every dream of him and her at the alter is merely delayed by false promises and the only one is truly benefiting from the arrangement is HIM. His story is none other than the so called "Provisions" plan he is so call making to ensure them a prosperous future. Wow, How many times have we heard that one without ever seeing the manifestations of the provision! lol......

Is this the kind of man you wish to MARRY? are you willing to get married to a person who can take up to several years to make one Decision? Do you really have to be rich before you marry?

If you are in this category of Women, You need to tell him the "Waiting game is OVER"!!
I have so many friends who have allowed themselves to settle for men in which they had
nothing to offer them but passion. And even though passion feels good,But it doesn't pay the bills,and will never fully satisfy a relationship! It's only meant to last for a moment... After the moment it ends, you are back to where you begin!

It only leads you back without a ring! Huh.....

Does this sounds like anyone you know?

Many women can relate because SHE has been in this position by far too many times! Infact, Many Women have begin to believe the many stories about the MARTIMONY BED before SHE Weds! She have come to a notation that she better know what she's getting before she signs on the dotted line. Not so Funny huh, but after she takes the bate she still ends up without a mate!

Too many women are falling for the bate, They are allowing themselves to be bated in by their men and all his string of promises! Everytime she finally gets enough of air to resuscitate he bates her back in all over again. Funny thing what keeps her waiting is the Hope he'll finally give in an Marry her someday.

 Now, I will not say she'll never get her Ring, But I will say this She may have to wait a number of years, before she get the ring she may have could have been wearing by then. Even if  it wasn't the man she extended it to be from. There are times when a Women must began to count the cost of her Sin. She cannot allow a man to bring her life to a tragic end.

There Is A Big chances by the time you receive the ring, it's not worth, what you will receive in the end. You may do better to walk away and Wait on The LORD to send you who your heart has longed for.

Though I cannot offer solid advice,because each scenario may be different, but it's clear if you are in the waiting game, you better be clear to what you are getting for the bate Many women have come to the very end of a totally dysfunctional relationship and have learn that they do not even LOVE the man and will still marry him and risk a chance at True Love.

Then when Her marriage becomes impossible to be in, she uses her problems and pains against, the very people in the beginning who advise her to wait. Does this sound like anyone you know?

I don't want to throw the HAY at anyone, but it's clear that many Virtuous Women are being played like never before, some are very Bless to escape some of the pitfalls which was trying to overtake them, but there are still numerous of them that are being destroyed daily.

What is a Solution?

Virtuous Women, are under the attack of the enemy, she must learn which territory is her own.  If you are for GOD be for GOD, If you are for the World than be for the World. You cannot afford to stand in the middle. If she continues to leave her position without  GOD's Protection she will be slaugther by the attack.  If you are looking for Love, Look no further, GOD's Love supercedes a relationship which is built with false promises!

Learn how to get to know who YOU are, that is where it begins! Take the necessary steps to built a relationship with YOU. Learn what it is that will make you satisfied with you! I believe the best way to begin to be in a relationship with yourself, is by being in a Relationship with Christ!  He will begin to show you the real person inside of you and not only the shell your soul lives in. He will also reveal and heal your past hurts and pain, and give your life new meaning again!

Read your Word, for it teaches us how we must conduct our ways,thoughts and position. It's shows key applications to what will happen and what will not happen if we do not abide in his word. Each Story is a dialogue to strengthen your faith for each challenge. Although it may not be so easily to understand in the beginning but as you use the reference and text it shall continue to encourage and strengthen your faith for Spiritual Maturity and Growth.

Words to Women........

Women can have what they say, they can have a house,car,fine jewelry,beautiful clothes, spa day's, getaways, retreats, and for some they can have Men and Children before they wed, but what's most important is that they understand the responsiblities which lye ahead of their choices. Make decisions which are not only a quick fix to a temporary problem, but is the answer to a long lasting future.

                         It's Your Choice to take the Bate or Wait....................................................

I hope this encourage Women to look within themselves before making a lifelong decision....If you enjoyed what you've read come and join us as we discuss many different topics and feel free to post your comments!


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